i have a boyfriend ive been with him for 3 years now we're both 19! an every time i say my back is aching he doesnt offer to rub it or anything and im the one ending up asking him too, when i ask him he says oh baby my how long for my arm is aching or its tired or sometimes he just doesnt do it at all an the same happens with sex too he makes up excuses sayin that hes back is aching so he cant have sex now what i wanna know is this wrong can i get better??, lyk...iff he was a true boyfriend would he just have sex with me an rub my back NO MATTER WHAT, i dunno im just confused so i need your advices please????????????
2007-05-02 02:10:39 · 11 answers · asked by Babii-Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First ask if your expecting too much from him, he might not be very affectionate, some men aren't. Weird, but true. If that's not what you want from a man...move along..next...There are a lot of affectionate guys out there dieing to give a woman everything she desires..well physically at least.
2007-05-02 02:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by me u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
19 and not wanting sex. He is either getting some somewhere else or he just isn't that into you anymore, and looking for a way to get you to break up with him. You've been together for 3 years so I am thinking the latter. He's been there done that with you. Sounds cruel to say this I know but I think you might need some time apart. I know you hope he finds out what he is missing, but being 19 he isn't most likely to figure that out till he is in his middle 20's to early 30's. You are also 19 you need to live a little if he isn't going to keep you satisfied. You both deserve to be happy. Try talking to him if he doesn't want to listen then maybe you should call it off with him and start fresh and new there are many fish out there and sometime you have to catch and release before finding the one you want on your mantle.
2007-05-02 09:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by terrell suttles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u should start looking for a new man.. if you are unsatisfied.. but before you do.. just tell your man.. that you arent really being gratified.. the way you need to be.. that you'd like to have sex more.. and ask him to be more romantic. give him 1 month.. to change some stuff around... and if he doesn't succeed in a month.. find somebody new!
2007-05-02 09:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this even a valid question? Seriously, most men don't reject sex and any decent man EASILY see a "triggered" question... know where I'm getting to here?
Otherwise... I'd have to agree with the other poster here... >_>
2007-05-02 09:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by piecemealcranky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldl he make up an excuse for sex? He needs to stop making excuses and do his job as a boyfriend.
2007-05-02 09:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ryder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he not the kind who does anything with the partner.about the sex that strange cause all man like sex so something is wrong in there talk to him don't feel afraid
2007-05-02 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lazy and wants all the attention himself. Do not give him attention do not ask for sex! pretend you dont need him and maybe he will wake up and see what hes missing
2007-05-02 09:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by sharilynnj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he hates giving back rubs it doesn't mean anything. If you are so unhappy move on
2007-05-02 09:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to go to the chiropractor.
2007-05-02 09:14:18 · answer #9 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that is the biggest issue you have in your relationship, things are just not that bad - enjoy
2007-05-02 09:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋