I have a friend who loves to call me her best friend but i don't feel the same kind of love. I'm always there for her mentally when she needs me, financially when she can't afford to make it, and any other time she needs me, but i found that everytime i talk to her she needs something. The only time she has ever did anything for me i had to ask then she hounded me about the 60 dollars when i know for a fact she still owes me way more than 60 dollars but being a friend that i am i wouldn't ask for it because i know her situation. I feel i can no longer deal with this cause i don't feel that she appreciates me as a friend. Please help!
2007-05-02 02:03:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It don't think it is necessary to say anything. Just make yourself unavailable, don't answer her calls, decline her request to borrow anything, and gracefully bow out of the relationship. If she asks you what the problem is then you can nicely just tell her that you are reorganizing your life and your priorities and need some time to yourself. She should get the hint.
2007-05-02 03:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a 50/50 relationship/friendship to me. been there! have you ever told her how you feel? perhaps she's unaware of her behavior. i went through this phase a while back, where I filtered out all the people that didn't make me happy, brought me down, used me, etc. maybe it's time for you to do the same. life is too short to have negative people in your life. i would first try talking to her though. if that doesn't work, lay low for a while. i'm sure she'll eventually get the hint that your not interested in being friends w/ her anymore.
2007-05-02 09:13:41 · answer #2 · answered by loves21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a friendship of convenience on her part. You're right to move on, so you've got three options. (1) Tell her how you feel and end it amicably; (2) Write her a letter explaining, so you don't have to face a possible confrontation; or (3) wait for her to take advantage of you again and use that moment to justify leaving the friendship with an in-your-face example. Good luck!!
2007-05-02 09:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by J Dubble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you could work things out in a better way first, see if there can be adjustments to be made, because tellin the person you no longer want to be friends can really hurt the person.
2007-05-02 09:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ryder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you guys are so tight sit her down and talk to her. Tell her that you need a bit of space to asess the friendship; which you have alrready done, but she doesn't know that. Then just wean her off slowly.
2007-05-02 09:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by trey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone like that shouldn't be considered your friend
It is called 'you are a stone(stepping stone) or a bank '
you should distance yourself from her or
if you like her tell point blank how you feel and by her reaction
make your decision
2007-05-02 09:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by Luz M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to say ...Just stay away as long as you can.
One step one day, two steps next day...Until you are safe!
She is not your friend, she is an oportunist.
2007-05-02 11:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by stella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it out to your friend. tell her the truth that you can't stand her. or say you need some space
2007-05-02 11:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say i hate you
2007-05-02 09:30:41 · answer #9 · answered by ajz adivice corner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋