I have recently discovered that my husband is paying for a online mature dating sight and is talking to other females about having sex and fantasies and such! His profile is a lie his age is off by over 25 years and he has lied about his race. He has on there just looking or maybe more. I could care less if he looks at porn over the internet, movies, or in magazines but engaging in conversation with real women bothers me a great deal. what I want to know is do you think this is just playing games or could it be that he is looking for something on the side?
2007-05-02 00:32:30 · 11 answers · asked by shanessarae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Generally, if someone is doing that I'd say they are looking to cheat.
But if he's lied about his age and race, you have to think he has no intention of meeting these people in real life. Probably just chat-sex or phone sex, at most.
How you feel about that is up to you.
2007-05-02 02:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one!! Have you spoke to him about this? If he is talking to other women, not just viewing the porn sites etc., then it goes into an entire different realm of straying from the relationship. You need to talk to him and find out why he is doing these things. The thing that makes me believe that it is merely a fantasy thing, is that he has lied about his race and age by soooo much. It may be him striving to be that young stud again that he thought he was back in the day. However it is a situation that could quickly escalate into an affair, especially if he has gone to the lengths of paying for a mature dating website. You definetly need to talk to him, and find out why, who and what exactly is going on. You are his wife and you have the right to know. And there is hope if you need to get counseling, therapy or work on the relationship so you are the one he is calling for sex. The fact that he is doing more than just looking at other women is a big concern, some would say this is already cheating, however it could be also construed as fantasy role playing. It depends on how deep he is in the game. Be caustious and you need to talk to him! Good Luck!!!
2007-05-02 07:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not telling the truth of his age is already cheating, either you tell him to stop or accept his lies. Once a wife or a husband destroyes the trust with each other, the marriage can no longer become 100% successful. So take a more aggressive action before he meets them in person or before he makes his fantasies a reality!
2007-05-02 08:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by pidyang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is filling a need elsewhere...period, end of story. He is getting something from this on-line life that your current relationship cannot provide, even though it's not physical yet..it's emotional and sexual. In a sense he is already cheating, when you go outside your relationship to fill a need that is sexual, emotional and worst of all intimate you are in deep doo doo. I say intimate because if you can talk about sex with someone else....that is an act of need and intimacy. If it were me I would be very worried.
2007-05-02 08:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is already cheating!! Talk to him and ask why he does that. You may have neglected him or he doesnt feel the attention from you. But just keep alert as there may be more to come for you to discover.
2007-05-02 07:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds very much like he is looking for something on the side, and this sort of behaviour is totally disrespectful to you, how would he feel if you were doing the same thing?
2007-05-02 08:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for something on the side and by you not caring if he looks at porn, he has a reason to look for a side piece. You should care that he looks at porn. The reason he looks at porn is that you don't give him any or enough booty. My girl get furious when I look at porn. She feels insulted and cheated on. I don't watch porn like I used to because it doesn't interest me anymore, my girl interests me. She is there for me in every sexual way possible. You need to talk to your husband. You need to fulfull his every need or your marriage wont go far.
2007-05-02 07:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Monkey Minion 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he's just an old fart. Ask him about it. What he's doing is really cheating in a technical sense so you make up your own mind. I'd get out my rolling pin.
2007-05-02 07:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats already cheating , if hes doing this online whats he doing off line.
2007-05-02 07:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by fafandloo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean "would" he cheat? Wake up and smell the coffee, honey. He IS cheating.
2007-05-02 08:25:22 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋