I saw my wife's boss was kissing her after they went to the bar. When I confronted her on the same evening she told me: "Yes, I was attracted to him, I needed a friend and soul mate, but I did not cheat on you"
She bought new sexy closes, incl Victoria Secret etc.
Her phone bills got 100's min conversations with him till I discovered them.
It's been on and off between them (if there was anything serious at all)for one year.
She keeps saying I am "the man" of her life when I talk about divorce, but doesn't admit cheating very often she acts nasty and frustrated in our everyday routine.
I had a conversation with that man - he denies any sexual relationship but admits there was attraction and he is very sorry abou this.
Recently, I read one her e-mail to him - at the end she writes "I can't be without you"
When I demanded an explanation - she told me it's just a psyhological game with him kinda teasin.
Remember, he is her boss and about to fire her.
Q: Did she cheat??? I NEED TO KNOW.
2007-05-02 00:09:46 · 28 answers · asked by lostinny4life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know about you, but I would consider it cheating if I saw my spouse kissing someone else. Whether or not there were sexual relations beyond that.
9 times out of 10 when we think our spouse is cheating, they are.
Although she could be "playing the game" to keep her job. That doesn't make it right, because it could be how they interact.
REMEMBER: It is VERY, VERY, VERY important (for the sake of your marriage -if it is valuable to you) to keep your cool. Our marriage vows say for better or worse - and there's no clause stating how much worse. Think before you act. You don't want to do anything rash and cause more anguish for yourself.
If you are inclined you might want to ask Jesus for help in this matter. Ask Him to come into your heart and help you through this difficult time. Ask Him for Wisdom and Guidance. He will not lead you astray.
You're going to be ok. You'll get through this. I'm praying for you and restoration to your marriage.
2007-05-02 00:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES SHE IS CHEATING.......... Look man don't be blind she is done it and she wants to get away with it. Some people is like this they want to have a married life and have something in the side.. Have you ever cheated on her? if the answer is no then she did it first and she will keep doing that all the time because she is a worthless piece of shittt and if you did then you got what you deserve and now you must live with it.. But the way you sound is as if you hadn't done anything to deserve this, so the only thing we can tell you is what we tell women in your situation all the time GET RID OF HER.. KICK HER TO THE CURVE.. she is no good. let her go and live with her boss. I'm sure he is married, that is why she wants to keep you. She feels that only with that dude she is the mistress but she still wants to hold her wife title, and with the both of you she can accomplish this. Don't let her do this to you.. LEAVE HER.. Good luck.
2007-05-02 01:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
First I want to say that I am sorry to hear what you are going through.
I think it's very importnant for couples to each understand where their own personal boundaries and defintions of cheating are. What I may think is cheating, my husband might simply define as flirting. It's important for the sake of eachother to understand and have a good definition of cheating.
So with that being said. She says she hasn't cheated because in her mind, on her terms, her definition of cheating, she hasn't. What you need to ask youself, is in your mind, has she?
In my opinion, which is of course just that, a stranger's opinion...Yes, she has cheated. She has physically connected with someone else as well as emotionally.
Your best bet would be to talk to her, find out why she took this route, perhaps what you can do about it and know when to cut your losses if need be.
Good luck, this will be a tough path, whatever way you take.
2007-05-02 00:23:25 · answer #3 · answered by TamBam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is cheating, kissing her where?
People become angry and frustrated with their other partner when they are denying the fact that they are cheating when they clearly are.
If the both have an attraction its not innocent. She needed a soul m8? that sounds dodgy too, dont you think you are her soulm8 considering you guys are married?
Maybe she is trying to get him to engage her before she files a divorce with you, as well relationships in the workplace, not allowed right?
2007-05-02 00:23:57 · answer #4 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the email makes it difficult to believ otherwise. I was giving her thebenefit of the doubt unitl the bit from the email. But you know, harmless flirting never hurt anyone as long as ot does not get physical, sometime it may even be good for a relationship. Trust your instincts though, your gut is usually right.
2007-05-02 00:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by MizzeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I believe that she has. Even if she didn't have "intercourse"... the emails, phone calls, nights out etc. the mental relationship is worse in my opinion than a sexual relationship. She's shutting you out of being her friend and soulmate and that's wrong... Get a PI or ask someone to follow her and see what she's doing and then make up your mind.
2007-05-02 00:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sweetie thats cheating. If I did that to my husband I would expect to get served within the next couploe weeks and vise versa. Confront her, leave her or just stay quiet thats your call but I would be gone.
2007-05-02 01:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without even reading past the third line of your post, let me explain something to you that you do not seem to understand: She kissed another man. She cheated. Period.
2007-05-02 01:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely that is cheating!! Give her 1 last confrontation and give her a good warning. If not then just divorce.
2007-05-02 00:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by le_snowangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she slept with him, but even if she didn't do it yet, going out with a guy, kissing him, spending 100 hours on the phone with him (and ALL HER DAY TIME) is cheating.
Be strong, and let her the first.
2007-05-02 00:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋