We broke up over a week ago. I can't help but think that it was because he thought things were moving too fast after being to gether for a year. He said he felt we were at different stages but I don't understand as I don't think we were. He sent me a card in February saying how he couldn't wait to spend many more years together? The only thing that may have freaked him was that there were lots of things for us to go too together and he was having triouble fitting them in around his work and his own pals. I had said that one of my mates think we should move in together but that I didn't, I would maybe think about it after two years but was not looking for that now. Should I email him to tell him this?
2007-05-01 23:51:43 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why dont you call him and tell him this? Or ask to meet up for a drink or something? Emailing someone how you feel just shows that you dont respect them enough to tell them to their face!
Or just move on, after all... if hell leave you over this then hes obviously not worth it! Its probably just an excuse anyway and he didnt really want to be with you, if my fiance thought things were moving too fast he'd say! he wouldnt just leave me!
2007-05-01 23:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by ?Gems? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could email him and ask him if he thinks there is any hope of you two getting back together. Either he will say yes and you can try to work out your differences or he can say no, in which case you need to move on and find someone else.
Don't email him about moving in together. That sounds a bit too much for what's going on right now.
2007-05-02 00:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that emailing him and telling him that is necessarily the answer, you certainly don't need to seem desperate and pining away for him. You can email him and ask him what exactly was moving too fast for him, or what stage he felt he was at that was so different than yours. Otherwise, email him and ask if you can still be friends, no one ever died from too many friends!! Good Luck!
2007-05-01 23:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ... he was scared of commitment and wasn't ready to "settle down" into a long-term relationship. You scared him off by telling him what your friend said!
As for a card in February saying "many more years together" - don't all guys write that kind of cr*p in Valentine's Day cards?
Let him go and find someone else.
2007-05-01 23:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have felt under pressure when someone said move in together. Men get a gliff easily hun lol ! (Gliff is a scottish word for fright !) Yep e-mail him. Nothing ventured nothing gained ! Good luck xx
2007-05-02 00:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Isis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and make him understand. But you know what? From what I can perceive you are congesting him alot... whilst you love him and want to be with him give him time also to do others things like work and other pals.
2007-05-02 00:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex who I when out with for 2 years and we broke up this year!! Its hard to go though!! But you guys can still be friends!! Theres no harm in that!! And you should e-mail him!!
Skaterhottiebug
2007-05-02 00:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by JenniBear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bother emailing, I would just call him and ask if you could meet up together for a chat. Tell him to his face how u feel & u would like 2 giv it another go.
2007-05-02 00:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by bella 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him miss you. I would leave it for a few more weeks and then if you really feel you need to get in contact I would call and ask him to meet for a chat, don't do it on email. x
2007-05-02 00:42:12 · answer #9 · answered by farleyjackmaster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound to me like he's interested and he's trying to let you down "gently". You could e-mail him, but you may not get a response. Might be a good idea to shift gears and go elsewhere for companionship.
2007-05-02 00:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋