I feel like I owe some people an apology.
They used to be so nice to me and tried so hard to be my friend and get me out of my shell but I just couldn't and I was too weak. And I feel horribly now and I need to explain some things to them.
First of all I want them to know that I'm not trying to get anything out of this or their sympathy. I want them to know that I've always loved them and the reason I never could be friends with them was because first of personal weakness and later depression. All I want is for them to understand.
How should I approach them to apologize, wait for an opening? Or actually like sit them down and tell them everything? Any suggestions are good.
2007-05-01 23:47:57 · 4 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it is a family member, or friends that you were close to then give them a call. . But leave out the "I am not trying to get anything out of you, or your sympathy". You can say that you feel you owe them an apology, and then explain to them exactly what you wrote in your question. Tell them how much their friendship meant to you. But it was out of fear, weakness, and depression that you avoided them.
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I am sure that they will understand, you say that they tried so hard to be you friend before. It shows that they are good decent people. So don't be afraid of being rejected by them.
I know how you feel, I have the same problem but I am still in a state of depression. Sometimes, I think of calling them, but then because I know that I am still depressed, I am afraid I won't follow through, and still alienate myself from them. Depression is really a horrible state to be in. I am so glad that you are out of it.
All the luck in the world to you.
Sincerely, a Y/A contributor.
I read mums answer. Writing to them is not advisable. It is a cop out, and that is how they will see it. So do tell them either on the phone, or eye ball to eye ball. But that is only if you are sure that you will pick up where you left off. Otherwise just leave it till you are ready to go on with the relationships you had with them before your depression.
2007-05-02 00:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression isn't a weakness and you have nothing to be ashamed about. This friend will understand and if you need time and space and treatment, a good friend will help you.
2007-05-02 00:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes its easier to put it writing..you have time to make sure the words you express say what it is you really mean... if you write from your heart I am sure these people will understand and if they don't you will feel better knowing you tried to explain. Good luck.
2007-05-02 00:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by mum 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to seek them out, and tell them individually.
2007-05-01 23:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋