to those who already separate...why still i m always meeting the wrong guy?and the same attitude end up with us?they said we can mee the right guy after the wrong ones..are you saying that after your separation...you can actually love someone else?sometimes i wonder how people can divert their feelings for someone else...what if the other person happen to be the same type...does that mean this is our fate...?which makes us only to prefer single again
2007-05-01 23:39:12 · 8 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
unless and until you take a good hard look at yourself at who you are and what you want out of life, you will continue to choose the wrong partner.
2007-05-01 23:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a new hobby, and go to different places, you'll meet a different sort of man if you change the way you live your life and stay away from the "normal places" you would go to, such as the same pubs or clubs etc. It is totally possible to have feelings for someone else after a break up, give yourself time to get over your ex first though, that takes a different amount of time for each person, so don't rush it. I was in a cycle of dating men that put me down and used me, I took a new job even though I was scared to make such a big change and met a different sort of people in the new environment, I met my now fiance there and he is totally different to anyone I have dated in the past.
2007-05-02 08:49:13 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is completely different from my ex-husband! After me and my ex broke up I simply wasnt looking for anyone... I wanted to be free of all the crap from my marriage and enjoy "me" for awhile. Then my new husband comes along. At first I was resistant... a "whatever" attitude... and that just made him try harder! LOL After 7 years, it doesnt matter what I do I cant get rid of him ( I say that lovingly of course!) The kind of guy that my ex was is all I knew for years and years.... It took some time, and I almost gave up on love, but just when I thought that I was destined to be single and accepted that...... I turned that corner and ran right into the greatest love I have ever known! Dont give up hope...
2007-05-02 06:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to change your choices and reasons for those choices. I have friends who constantly choose men for their money and status who have absolutely no interest in being married. Look at the qualities you want in a partner and make sure the men you are dating have those qualities. If you are always going for the pretty face, no substance, that's what you will get or the thrill seeking "bad" boy. It's not so hard to find the right guy once you figure out what you need a man to be for you.
2007-05-02 06:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize what YOU want from a man and dont give everything into the relasionship before you are sure you are ready to commit. Set standards for yourself so that you choose whats best for you. Choosing the wrong man comes from not knowing what you want...
2007-05-02 06:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you leave a bad relationship and keep finding "bad types" of men then you need to stop dating for a while. You can't break a bad habit overnight, you need time to just be yourself and live alone, once you do that you will raise your standards and find a better man.
2007-05-02 06:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am contemplating a divorce. I love and care very deeply for my husband but him and I share too many differences. If we do divorce, I am done with men. All they do is hurt me. I want to enjoy my life and be happy with my children.
2007-05-02 06:51:47 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its you stay away from those kind of people types move on
there is someone else out there for you
2007-05-02 06:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋