We been together for 16yrs and seperated for a year. My ex sometimes makes me feel guilty about our problems and tells me that i need to get help. She is the one living with a loser ex boyfriend that has a part time job and can't pay there bills. She was even jealous of my girlfriend and told me what am i'm doing you have 2 daughters (they live with me). So I broke it off with her because I thought she wanted to work things out but now it seems that my ex only comes around when she needs money or something. I can't understand why she would choose to still be so shelfish and stubborn and not try to work thing out. So how can I show her you need to make up your mind because I need closure and to move on. I don't want to be the bad guy and my kids are hurting for her. I feel bad because i'm the one that kick her out. I got tired of the bs and cheating. I still love her and want her back. I look into my daughters eyes and all I see is my ex. I know my ex is hurting also what do I do.
2007-05-01 23:12:34 · 5 answers · asked by jadden 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she doesnt want you to be happy!
duh!
move on!
if she asks you what you are doing with the new GF you have, tell her "living well!"
2007-05-01 23:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 16 years of marriage (and kids!) I believe you've had very good reasons to split up with her. Sometimes you might think that the person has changed, but you can get really disappointed. Sometimes though, what a person really needs is a second chance. You should decide on that. I personally would think that throughout these 16 years you have given her many "second chances" so I wouldn't think she has changed.
Apparently she isn't happy, that's why she is constantly bothering you. Since she is coming to you for help then yes, she still feels you. Your situation is really complex, and that is mainly because you have a new gf. What you could do is try to have a couple of months distance with the ex. No talking, no helping etc. See how you feel. Then explain to the gf (nobody wants a person in love with s.o. else) and try with the ex, if that is what you want. Don't rush to marriage, try a couple of years of "dating" (lil bit inappropriate word for this case). See how it works out. Life is not as short as some say, take your time.
2007-05-01 23:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really wanted to get back with you she would have kicked out the old bf and then she would have suggested counseling she has done neither. She also wants to blame you for your marriage problems but as they say it takes two to tango. First stop giving her money she choose where and who to live with not you next stop letting her blame you for everything its time to man up my friend. Don't let her ruin your life because she's not happy with yours. It's time for you to be happy and move on don't keep letting time pass. Do what is best for you get a girlfriend be with your daughters and start enjoying life. If your ex wants to be miserable then let her you can't control that and stop trying to. If she wants to get back together which I doubt then let her make the first move shes the one that moved out. Shes not happy so shes doesn't want you to be happy the old saying misery loves company applies....
2007-05-01 23:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your ex for a reason leave it that way.Why are you torturing yourself,move on.Your daughters deserve to be raised in a stable loving home.Why would you want to teach your daugters that cheating is ok it is not..Put your ex in your past and move on..
2007-05-02 00:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
want to see a person who lives a life of defeat?
I show you one who makes excuse for lover who cheats
you the nice spouse who laughs with kids, buy them toys
you build a homelife while ex is selfish and destroys
the blind lead the blind, both fall in the ditch
your choice... life of misery... or get rid of the witch!
2007-05-01 23:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your EX for a reason(s). I would not allow her to bother you. Trust me - Living Well, is truely the Best Revenge.
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2007-05-01 23:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋