I know someone who is having a problem that is being manipulated by an ex old enough to be her father to have sex with him. He calls her everyday wanting her back and she falls for it every time because she's attached... then he ends up forcing her to have sex. So how do you deal with this guy? What can this girl do if she's attached?
2007-05-01 21:50:08 · 36 answers · asked by applekun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Say "NO". Also, she can tell this man to backoff and leave her alone or she will get a restraining order against him. Have her to say that it is over. If necessary, have her change her phone number to a non-published number, too. If he is calling her at her place of work, that is a form of harrassment that could even have her lose her job! Advise her to also tell her manager at work in case he calls there.
2007-05-01 22:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Can't Really Stop Her If She's Attached To This Guy, But If you Report This Guy To The Cops About How Your Afraid For Her Safety, Then Something Can Somewhat Be Done, You Can't Force People To Have Sex With You, But It's In This Girls Jurisdiction If She Doesn't Believe He Is Forcing Her, Then Nothing Can Really Be Done Until She Gets Tired Of Him Messing With Her.
2007-05-01 22:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Misti Brock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's very little you can do about the guy. He will do this for as long as he can get away with it. You should focus your energies on stopping your friend from being manipulated. Foster strength in her. Show her that she is worthy of respect that she is not getting from this man. Unfortunately, your best efforts may not be enough. She is probably going to be hurt very badly in the end. Take heart in that, however. She is hurting enough right now. Once he tosses her aside for the last time, her pain may seem worse, but it is only then that her healing can begin. As young women, many of us have experienced this kind of manipulative relationship. It serves a valuable purpose as a learning experience that we carry with us and never repeat. Remind her every day that her value and self worth are not contingent upon the love of this loser. Remind her that there are decent, caring men that would love the opportunity to treat her the way she deserves to be treated. Have faith that, in time, she will be severed from this predatory jerk and will come out of it a stronger person, a person that will not accept this emotional abuse in the future. Her prince charming is out there somewhere, and when she finds him, she will be ready to appreciate the real love he has to offer. In the meantime, hold her hand through this. She needs her friends to be her soundboard and her anchor to the world outside of this unfortunate situation.
2007-05-01 22:04:09 · answer #3 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to clarify "he forces her", rapes....? or just won't let up until she gives in and uses her feelings she has for him against her, so she will have sex with him?
If so.... ask her, and you probably already have, don't you feel used? She will probably say "yes" but I can't help it. A good reply to make her think is... The one your supposed to be with....is waiting for you. Don't you think you should better yourself for when you meet him? How will you know when you meet the "one" if your mind and time is all wrapped around this old man? You may miss out on meeting the 'one' while this old fella has your attention. Your not going to meet the 'one' inside the sheets with this old guy...
You may also remind her that while she is with him....he is probably with others and risk's the chance of giving her an std.
Help her see that she is worth more than what she is giving her self credit for:
Ask her.... would you give all your belongings....car, furniture, money, "everything" to this old guy? If not, than why are you giving him something "worth way more than those things"...... "herself".
Your a good friend :) Hope this helped.
2007-05-09 18:16:44 · answer #4 · answered by suzangm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him in the nutz!!
Seriously though, the civil way would be to make sure she knows she's being manipulated. No one likes to be manipulated, it makes them feel stupid and less human. All she needs to do is either tell him it's over FOR GOOD, or just don't answer the phone. And if he gets out of hand she needs to call the police. It is a serious issue, if he's manipulating her for sex who knows wha he could be doing that you dont know about. He sounds like a major douche, so kick him in the nuts anyways!
2007-05-01 21:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that but why did she start this relationship and why did she have sex with him if she knew that he's old enough to be her father??? He cannot force her.It is her decision.And why did she leave him if she is attached to him. I really don't understand. Most probably there is a new bf .
Who's manipulating here?
2007-05-02 21:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by sam j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 08:12:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very little if the girl is over the age of consent, apart from talking to her and possibly him, however she is unlikely to listen to anyone else and will have to reach the decison to end the realtionship by herself.
You may find the more she is pushed by others the closer you will push her to him.
If he is forcing her to have sex in a physical sense then obviously that is rape which she needs to be strong enough to report.
The most you can do is support her
2007-05-01 21:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by horsegal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no one can be forced to have sex, with anyone, if your friend lets herself be talked into believing what that Man tells her, then she is at fault, because she knows that at the end he is going to have sex with her. Could be that she Loves what to expect from him so, she makes herself into believing what he tells her. She should examine her thoughts and come to the conclusion that what she is doing to herself is wrong, and the only one that will be the loser is her. No, she is not attached.
2007-05-09 15:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its diffecutl
and in a way is it is too. this question is very intersting and i would love to answer but i m lacking in words
what ever all i can say is all men should respect womenhood and should avoid too much og drinking.
and women u too should take care of ur body do not seduse men for no reson and when a man has over done his manhood then its the man who is always bleamed. so i think its the both the sex who should take care
2007-05-01 21:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋