I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now and everything is almost perfect. I really think he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with but, I am really insecure and jealous of his ex, they were together for 2 years and broke up a few months before he and I got together. He says he doesn't talk to her anymore or have any feelings for her but he still stays in contact with her family which I can understand because of how long they were together for. Also,once when we were messing around he accidentlly said I love you (his ex's name) he appolligized and felt terrible for it and has never said it again but it still bothers me a lot. I dont know what to do and I dont want to lose him please help!
2007-05-01 21:13:51 · 5 answers · asked by Krystal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your in a very new relationship, this is where you should learn to trust when he says it is over, it is. Only if he gives you a major reason to believe it is not over, then you can worry. As far as him saying her name, I did that once in the beginning of my relationship with my husband. When you are with someone a long time and break-up, it can happen. I was not even thinking of my ex when I did it, it was more out of habit. Chances are, neither was he. If you like the guy, don't turn him off to you by fretting every second over her. She is HIS past. Stop dragging HER into your future. It is called adult situations for a reason. More than anything, like it or not, it is not even your business. Let it go and try to be happy.
2007-05-01 21:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous situation here. It definitely sounds like hes not completely over his ex and still has strong feelings for her and is only using you to try and forget her. The rebound thing. His contact with her family isnt going to help you either. He cant have the best of both worlds and hope to move on with you. Unfortunately, I see his feelings for her as stronger than those he has for you otherwise you wouldnt be on here. The "because of how long they were together" is nothing more than a really cheap excuse. Staying in contact with her family gives him the way to stay connected to her and nothing good could ever come out of that. Hes slowly working his way back to her and soon youre about to be hurt. See the red flags and use any excuse you like but end this now and move on to someone without so much excess baggage. It may hurt now but not nearly as much as it will when he goes back to hr and dumps you. Youll be allright and eventually happier. Time to move on. Good luck
2007-05-01 21:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont be jealous cause that could push him away. Just focus on the relationship, romance and everything. And do positive things for u. That way your selfesteem with gain a few more points.
2007-05-01 21:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by mistista07 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not worthed it baby. The ex's name is still on his lips, that ain't supposed to happen even if it is an accident. Can you imagine it happening during an orgasm? It sucks. He sucks. If he can't stay with a girl for more than 2 yrs, he is just a waste of your time too. Maybe he likes his ex's mom more than you, which is why he still talks to her. Maybe she is a MILF and he is the MILF-HUNTER.
2007-05-01 21:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by monsternipple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he really loves you, he should stop contacts with her family. Perhaps he does not know that this bothers you. Please tell him. If he doesn't, he may still love her. Unless her family are his best buddies.
2007-05-01 21:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by lost-in-love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋