my soon to be exhusband had our 2 month old daughter at his place last night since we are going threw a divorce due to him cheating and lying.he was in great spirits when he left but as soon as he found out i was at a bar with a friend, he flipped out and wanted me to go home ASAP so he could drop her off. 30 min. later i got home and he was mad when i got there handed her to me said good bye and drove off in a hurry.
NOW, today he is saying if i want he will take her tomorrow night so i can go back out again!
one minute he is mad i have a life and the next he says to go out! is he playing mind games?
2007-05-01 17:38:26 · 13 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know that he is necessarily playing "mind games" but it sounds like he definitely doesn't know what he wants. You might be getting a divorce, but it sounds like he still wants to be with you...sometimes...when the mood strikes him. It is a good thing you are getting out now...just be sure you get some sort of custody arrangement in place ASAP, then when he has her, he can't just "ditch" her because he doesn't like what you are doing. Make your plans for the nights he has her...it is your life...you can do as you please whether he likes it or not.
2007-05-02 03:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by autumprncss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 19:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by arnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it's mind games, but it does sound like there is a little bit of adjustment going on...which is to be expected. I think that what you should do is to talk to your ex and plan out a specific visitation schedule so that there is none of this "I'll take her tonight" and then change his mind stuff going on. Also, he doesn't have any right to know what you are doing with your time anymore, you aren't together, so just don't talk about it. Be civil and keep your intereaction based upon your child and nothing else. Good luck.
2007-05-01 17:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your giving him a taste of his own medicine and he doesn't like it .And when he called you and said you could go out tomorrow night he had time to think just how bad his actions were.But he will do it again .Remember men thinks it is normal to cheat they have the right to do it, after all (I am man)
Men play with a whole different set of rules when it come to marriage.They no going in that they are going to cheat on their wife. Take the bachelor party for instants what does that mean to him,he is a bachelor for one more night so what does he do or his friends get him to do, have sex with a girl or watch one take her clothes off. Why because he thinks that is what you are suppose to do and he mustn't look like he is puss e whipped his Friends will make fun of him.
2007-05-01 18:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time he probably just over reacted to the fact that you had a life and he wasn't going to make it easy for you. Then once he had time to think about it he probably realized you had as much right to a life as he did. That's just a guess. If your divorce is not final yet, he might be trying to fix it where he gets custody so he won't have to pay child support.
2007-05-01 18:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a control freak, be glad you are getting him out of your life. I guess that could be considered mind games. I wouldn't be surprised if you dropped your daughter off again and he pulled the same sh*t.
2007-05-01 17:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by juniper555 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are grasping for something that's not there. You WANT him to be annoyed that you are out. He might have been for a second, then realized he wasn't being rational and is being considerate by offering to watch the baby again. Get over it and move on!
2007-05-01 17:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by mimi s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question but lets get down to basics. What bar are you going to be at and will you be wearing something revealing? What's your favorite drink and how many does it take to get you hammered? Let me know!
2007-05-01 19:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wells seems he wanted to ruin your evening out, and next time you dont have to tell him where you are what you are doing, your making a new life without him...
2007-05-01 22:36:31 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to figure out what makes him tick. Just be glad you're getting rid of him.
2007-05-01 17:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋