For a while now, my former High School had a ban against taking the same sex to a school dance. Being gay, I wanted to take my boyfriend to prom though. I took the appropriate steps (and behind closed doors) politely asked to take him and have the ban lifted--they agreed. I went off to college a happy guy. Now, a new person is in charge and re-instated the ban. Should I stand up for my fellow gay friends who don't have the courage to fight for themselves even though I am in college? I should I just be glad I no longer have to deal with the bigotry?
2007-05-01 16:51:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Who cares if it doesn't directly effect you? Stand up for what is right!
2007-05-01 16:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This happens often, especially if the couple is young and just starting out in their lives and careers. Assuming the distance is great and the time, like University or a new Job, is just as great, It's really asking to much, to expect the love to last. Married people get divorced all the time, and they live side by side, which of course, may be the reason for the divorce. lol Other couples split up, love sadly, for most of us, is not eternal, but often fleeting. Although while we are in love, we believe it to be so. We all need company and companionship, and other people close to us. In long distance, you can always stay in touch, these days, but you still need some special person in your life, unless you intend to stay at home, with a good book or TV etc. Not the best way to spend ones life.
2016-05-18 07:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you wanted to take your boyfriend to prom, how did you feel about the ban? Wouldn't you have liked someone to support you when you went behind closed doors to have the ban lifted? Now that the ban has been reinstated, don't you feel that what you previously did no longer matters? If you do not speak out now, your own voice may be silenced by your inaction.
This quote from a Lutheran pastor living in Nazi Germany best explains why it is important to speak out for others when their is no personal gain for doing so.
When the Nazis came for the communists,
I remained silent;
I was not a communist.
When they locked up the social democrats,
I did not speak out;
I was not a social democrat.
When they came for the trade unionists,
I did not speak out;
I was not a trade unionist.
When they came for me,
there was no one left to speak out.
- Martin Niemöller
2007-05-01 17:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES! I think that's an amazing thing and those gay students need help from someone like you. These experiences teach them the importance of fighting for their own rights no matter what or who they have to face. Nobody is harmed by allowing gay and lesbian couples to attend a dance and enjoy the night like anyone else! I wish there were lots more like you. GO FOR IT, and lift the ban!
2007-05-01 17:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should fight. Get your college involved in making a change. Noone should be oppressed, ever, it's not right.
Get the college GLBT community involved, and the college at large, get your local GLBT community involved, get petitions going, do demonstrations, get flyers out, get the media involved.
Because really, what kind of a message does it send if they say it's okay to be gay, but not in public? It's awful and it's outdated.
You can make a huge difference for future generations of kids, they shouldn't live with this outdated stigma. They need to be included in the larger sexual spectrum, not shoved aside, it's not fair.
2007-05-02 03:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for what's right, Dearest. You won once before. You can do it again. You'll face a larger amount of bigotry in college, so you might as well whet your teeth on getting your HS to take the ban down. Good luck and Blessings.
2007-05-01 18:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would ask them if they want to go to the dance really really bad, and if they do, would they be willing to get subjected to the "looking eyes" of the people that go to the prom.
If they answered yes, then ask their permission if they would allow you to take on the challenge for them. If they do, then go on to the appropriate committee and tell them what your intentions are, if they refuse, tell them that you can take ACLU to take the case.
Because, if the two guys you represented can't go because they are gay, that is a discrimination. Its like not allowing Asians or African American to not go to the prom. Threatened the prom committee that you intend to get the prom canceled if the two guys you represented is not allowed to participate in this prom.
They should then make the decision, to allow the two guys to enjoy what they are entitled to or to canceled the prom completely.
2007-05-01 16:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it man. My little sisters High school is having the same kind of issues. she is not gay, but her friend Amy is and she wanted to her, her boyfriend, Amy and her girlfriend to go to the prom together. The school is having a hissy fit. I say stand up and fight this. those people at the school should be ashamed of them selves. Look, there are always going to be people who are bigots. you do not have to deal with it at the high school, but your friends do. Imagine what could happen if you ban together. Good luck to you!
a little side note to adam Hey look here Adam. people who are gay or Bi are NO different than you and I. they want to be able to enjoy the same life that we do and not have to worry that people are going to be uncomfy with it. for petes sake it should not even be an issue and its really a shame that it is.
2007-05-01 17:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by carriec 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont take this as a harsh thing (this is mainly for others who are in similar postions)....
if you heard your neigbour being slowly murdered but u didnt go cos it dont directly effect you would u be ok with that.
not just for gay rights but rights all over the world people need to start taking a stand. its time the human race helped each other out and said enough is enough!
2007-05-02 01:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna keep this short and sweet. Do what you feel is right.
I personally would fight, because a million voices are better than one. But in the end it's up to you.
Besides, you did it before, what's stopping you from doing it again?
Oh and someone gave a quote from that german guy, I suggest reading it before you make your decision.
2007-05-01 18:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut.
As someone who was allowed to take his same-sex date to the prom, I would think anyone with a conscious would feel terrible if others were not allowed the same respect.
Personally I'd go back and fight for their rights, but that's just me.
2007-05-01 16:55:20 · answer #11 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋