My mother-n-law does not accept me. I get that! But after 16 years of marraige and five kids she would get the idea that I am here to stay! Her parents adore me her neighbors love me her family respects me. Her son is a butt, but I stay. I draw the line at her trying to "control" my kids. Is this wrong?
2007-05-01 15:56:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dr. phill would say she is a meddling fool. You make the rules in your house. I guess if they are at her house... then you should take them home!
2007-05-01 15:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong to draw the line as far as her controlling your kids. Your kids are your kids. Of course they are her grandchildren and as long as you're not keeping her out of their lives then you're fine.
As far as her not accepting, just continue to be yourself and also make sure that you don't go to her level if disrespect and pettiness are involved. She may have some personal issues especially if such strong feelings of hate are involved and you have done no actions to warrant such feelings and hopefully she'll be able to work through those.
In all, maintain your ground, be positive and keep doing your own thing!
2007-05-01 23:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother to one son and four girls, I can only speak for myself. I can honestly say I do love my son differently than my girls. On levels, more and less. He was also my first born.
I do not get along with his current girl. She is older than him and already had 3 children. They had a son together last Oct. He also has two other children and why I do not like her so much. She is only wanting him to be Daddy to her children, and does not like him to see his own. Her children's father, who is still her husband, is in prison.
My strongly voiced disapproval cost me 6 months of seeing my son, as well as being there when my grandson was born.
After all that, I just back out of it and see my grandson from time to time.
I would kill to have a sweet daughter in-law who would love all my grandchildren and my son. I always wonder why most mother-in-laws have to be so cruel, when there are much eviler women out there, and they find sick pleasure in torturing true gems, like you sound to be.
She has to be out of her mind is all I can say. Maybe we should do a grandma swap and trade!!!
2007-05-02 06:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law hated me for years. She was diagnosed with cancer, and finally took the time to get to know me, I'm glad she did because before she passed away she told me she was glad that her son had married such a strong woman to take care of him. Best compliment I have ever gotten. Now MY mother still hates my husband, and we have been together 15 years. She still trys to introduce me to new guys!
2007-05-01 23:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tatts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married a mommy's boy... Thats okay if that is what you want. If she watches the children she should be able to control behavior while in her care. However if she is tring to run your house its time you and mommy had a chat.
Your not wrong in your thinking but be tactful your attached to her baby....
Good luck
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2007-05-01 23:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by drtoolman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope not wrong..you are the other woman in her eyes..thats her baby you are married too and it doesnt matter who you are ...you would simply never be good enough for him in her eyes...your kids should grow up and learn to respect her for who she is in the family ...even though its harder done than to say...you should never let your dislike of each other rub off on the kids..you as the parent get to decide what is and what isnt good enough for your babies...she as a grandparent only has the right to spoil them not make them disrespect you...
2007-05-01 23:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by bailie28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn Rights Its Wrong. The only Person is to control Your Kids is noone Just You. [but dont do it alot cause im a teen and i didnt like it] so just talk to her and Say Fuccken Back Off Old Bag. THERE MY KIDS!!
xD Sorry for the launguage its only me.
2007-05-01 23:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Adrianna p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is her son an only child or only son? Sometimes mothers feel like you took their baby!
2007-05-01 23:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Gidget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure she doesn't hate you. if she is helping with the kids at all you should appriciate every second of it and let her have her own rules. as lonng as it is not damaging or hurting the kids everyone has there own way but i don't know what is all going own but thats my oppinon.
2007-05-01 23:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not wrong. She probably doesn't like because she has nothing better to do. She probably wants more attention from her son.
2007-05-01 23:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by turnawayandgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋