Is it really cheating? What if you just wanted to taste and now that you have, it is done? Should you tell your spouse?
2007-05-01 15:52:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To answer what if my spouse did that to me. If he never tells me, I will never know, so how can that hurt me?
2007-05-01 15:58:38 · update #1
Personally, telling is a very bad idea... especially if you didn't mean for it to happen and you are beating yourself up over it and it WON'T happen again. Don't do it! It will cause more problems and hurt feelings than you ever thought. If it really was "just a kiss," leave it!
- I know everyone is going to disagree, but I speak from experience and the number one thing I was asked by family, friends and therapists was... why did you tell and what were you thinking!?!?!? Now if it was sex, I would say you gotta come clean.
+More I was even told by a counselor and later read it in a book that telling is a way to make you feel better and isn't very nice. Work through this by yourself for awhile.
2007-05-01 16:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes to me this is definitley cheating and being unfaithful to your spouse and to your marriage and yes you shoudl tell them. wanting just a taste will lead to more down the road and even worse and even sex later with other people. You are jumping into the frying pan with this one and it is NOT good at all. What would you think if your spouse kissed another person on you? How would it make you feel?
2007-05-01 23:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating. Never stray away from your marrige. Thats one thing you DON'T DO when you get married. It's not a game hun, ppl get hurt and it's not funny. How would you like it if it happened to you? Would you be hurt?If so, think about how ur spouse would feel. If you are interested in any other man/woman outside of the marrige then you're not really in love with this person and you need to get out of it before someone gets hurt!
2007-05-01 23:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating and you should definitely tell the spouse. Acting on your lust for something another person has is cheating, and it should be lived up to by telling the spouse.
2007-05-01 22:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by soccermidget_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the Priest who married you and see what he says. You already KNOW it's cheating, or you wouldn't have asked. You feel guilty about it or you wouldn't have asked. You KNOW you should tell your spouse or you wouldn't have asked. Yes, you cheated. If you "wanted a taste" you should have been tastin' your own partner!
2007-05-01 22:58:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'r married and satisfied, why would you want to kiss someone else. How would you feel if your spouse was the one doing the kissing?
2007-05-01 22:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by iluv1man81658 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a single, isolated event, it is a deminimis violation of your marital vows. Telling your spouse, immediately about it, will give it undue gravity. There may be a time, in the future, when you will find it appropriate to tell her.
2007-05-01 23:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are cheating. tell your spouse and maybe you'll be forgiven or not: either way your spouse should know
2007-05-01 22:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know the answer it may not be to the full extent of cheating-bu to know what that person taste like?get real.i think you were testing the water to see if there was chemistry or not-so either live with the quilt or fess up
2007-05-01 22:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you, same goes with him, if he was to do the same thing, applies to both of you.
Either way its not at all right for none of you, cheating is cheating, weather man or woman, its wrong for both.
2007-05-01 23:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Naaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋