Absolutely,
If you are in any conversation,
if the opinion varies, their is always the right to make sure
that you get your opinion, thoughts and/or views in there too-
I am not afraid of a debate, but I also don't open my mouth
when I don't know what I am talking about-
If it is something that I feel strongly about,
I will be heard, and I will be understood-
My point will be made,,,,,,that is a given
When it comes to children however-there is a way to do things that isn't acceptable with children like it is with adults,,,
anytime my child/children get into trouble,
we stop the situation,
there is the punishment,
the temper tantrum,
the calming down period,
then the talking period,
after they have calmed down a bit,
I ask why they got so upset,
I get their input,
then I ask them if they know why they got into trouble,
if they say yes, I make them explain,
if they so no, I explain, in detail, why they got into trouble,
then after I voice my issue, I ask them if they now know, and understand why-
I havent had ONE situation where I wasnt able to talk to them-
might both be in tears before its all done, but I allow myself to see their point, but still enforce the fact that these are MY rules, and this is the punishment for braking or disrespecting those rules,,,,
they always no why they were disciplined, that way, there can be no question as to "man, why did that just happen, what did I do"-remember, kids have attentions spans of like 2 minutes,,,,
I also think most people do their best in conversation to make themselves understood, what's the point in having a talk with someone if neither of you knows or understands what the other is talking about?
no one wants to look or feel like an idiot,,,,
2007-05-01 16:37:00
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