ok well im 17 and i told a friend that im a crossdresser and well she is really fine with it and now she wants to take me shopping. well im fine with that but she now wants to take me out and hang out all dressed up and i dont kno if i should cuz like i dont want people at my school to find out what should i do? someone please help me.
2007-05-01 15:22:24 · 17 answers · asked by deathmatch4000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You've already brought your cross-dressing out in the open and you're lucky enough the have a girl that likes it and wants to help you, so let her help you. Get dressed as a girl, go out shopping, go ahead & hang out, you're with a girl, so don't worry what people think and if someone from school finds out and says anything, dare them to let a girl dress them up & take them out and then all the nonsence will end. Just remember, there's other guys out there who cross-dress and even guys at your school too, so don't worry about them and have just some fun. You might be suprised who wants to be friends with you after they see you dressed as a girl.
2007-05-02 10:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never let yourself be pressured into something you are not ready for. I dressed only at home for many many years until I finally got the courage to go to a big TS/TG/CD convention where it was safe to be in public. Now as a fully identified TS with hormone letter and on hrt for several months, it does not scare me at all to go out in public.
But it is a growth experience and you have to be sure and feel safe before you do it. Just as important - go with a trans friend who can help and encourage you. Otherwise you could be teased, laughed at or even despised by someone you know, and that would be emotionally scarring.
2007-05-02 00:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by gwen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this arena, do only what you're comfortable with. Most people who enjoy crossdressing do so only in their own homes. If you believe you may be a transsexual, you may want to begin discussing such a decision (to go out as your non-biological gender) in therapy so you are prepared for the potential scrutiny and ridicule.
2007-05-01 22:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, I suggest that you read the book Luna, it's a very good book about a transvestite (sp.?), and it also has a pretty good idea, if you ask me, in it. it's where Liam, or "Luna", wants to go shopping at a mall and decides that if he/she is going to do it, then he's/she's going to do it at a mall that's quite the distance away. so if you really don't want to come into close confrontation with anyone that you know while cross-dressing and shopping, then go to a more distant mall or some much store, have fun, gl!
2007-05-01 22:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by hey h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It dosnt sound like your 100% comfortable with doing that,so i dont think you should. And if your friend is a true friend she will understand. Also if you ever decide to go somewhere with her and you are dressed,go where you most likely wont know anyone. And you also need to make sure that your friend is a true friend and totally ok with who you are.
Best of luck to you
2007-05-02 00:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by snowlady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dress as you are comfortable, but it sounds as though your friend is more enthusiastic than you are, and that might be uncomfortable for you if you're not ready. On the other hand, it might help rid you of some fears that are unfounded.
2007-05-01 22:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable with it, Then you shouldn't do it just because your friend wants you too..But you shouldn't care what kids at school think, As long as you have a few good friends who'll except you for what you do or who you are, Who cares about the rest of em? :) Good luck!
2007-05-01 22:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you and you alone. Nobody can tell you what you need to do. When you feel the time is right then you will be able to go out dressed.
2007-05-02 01:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how you feel about the dressing up bit or go somewhere people you know wont be that is what i do i go where my straight friends arent or the ones that don't know i dress are not goin to be
2007-05-02 01:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by big 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, this is a set up whichever way you look at it.
Stay in and learn who to trust.
Do not trust this girl, in fact, deny everything.
2007-05-01 22:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋