i found gay porn on my brothers computer.i know he is gay.i seen him make out with his friend.i have seen what he does in the shower.i need to know what to do about this.should i confront him?please help me
2007-05-01 15:11:10 · 38 answers · asked by Noah D 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be his brother and stand by him. At some point he will need your support.
2007-05-01 15:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very simple. Before you knew your little brother was gay how did you feel about him? If that has changed simply because he is gay then you should look very carefully at how you view yourself and the values you hold toward your family. Your little brother can no more help being gay than you can help being hetro. (I am assuming you are hetro) You should love him no manner what. In the next few years he is going to need all the support he can get.
At the right moment, and you will know when that is if you truly love him, give him a big hug and tell him you care. Tell him you will stand beside him no manner what then live up to your word.
If you don't you will hate yourself as much as the rest of the straight world will hate your brother. Why? Next to ones life partner/spouse the most important thing to people is their family.
2007-05-01 17:16:17 · answer #2 · answered by .*. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a brother thats understanding, then i feel you would take it upon yourself to be there for him. Don't exactly confront him if you're not the type he cant trust..try letting' him gain your trust and talk to you about his situation. Like bring up a conversation, and let him just come out...like "big brother, i got something to tell you, can i trust you?"..that i feel is the best way. Unless you don't want him having this life-style, because you fear for his future? if its that serious, you probably can't change him..confronting him will probably make him hold on stronger to his orientation.
you have to be cautious. Just make sure you don't do anything that will somehow interfere with your status as a brother.
My opinion, let him tell you about it. you don't try to find him out, like he is some criminal. As his brother, i'm sure you would say he is a good person...so screw the bible, and society that implies that being gay comes from being "Evil" or evil ways..thats bull.
wait don't screw the bibel-that was bad! screw the people who wrote that part to keep people seperated!!!
2007-05-01 15:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I have seen what he does in the shower"?! What is that supposed to mean?
First of all, what are you doing watching your brother shower? Wouldn't you consider watching men shower a homosexual behavior? That fact that he's your brother just makes your motivation to do something like that disturbing and questionable.
Secondly, what do gay men do in that shower that straight men don't do in the shower? Is there some special gay way to take a shower that I'm not aware of?
I don't know why I bothered answering. I'm just about positive that you made this question up to either provoke people or else just to be an ***. Good luck with that.
2007-05-01 15:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Peter D 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, wait until he comes out, you can't force someone out, they may just recoil and deny it.
When he comes out, tell him you accept him and love him still, even if you disagree with it, because he's still your brother, and this doesn't change the man he is, in fact it changes nothing, he's been gay all along.
Familiarize yourself with the topic, also maybe drop some hints that you're fine with homosexuality, so that he understands that you won't hate him when he comes out.
Especially if he is young you need to support him, because otherwise his risk of depression and suicide skyrocket, and that's not fair for anyone. He'll need to know it's okay.
2007-05-02 03:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You watch your brother shower? Isn't that creepy/perverted on your part?
He is your brother no matter what, and he deserves respect and privacy. If anything, you should mind your own business.
EDIT: I just read your other questions about your boyfriend, and all the sexual things you want to do with him. Looks like you are the one with the problem. Watching your brother shower is so WRONG.
Grow up, kid!
EDIT: YOU guys are not paying attention. The boy asking the question is a homosexual.
2007-05-01 15:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your brother's sexual preference was not his choice...he is what he is...depending on how old he is, what he would need most would be the support and love of his family...a lot of people think that being gay is the easiest thing in the world...they do not realize that we constantly struggle to be accepted in a society who had been programmed in the past to hate us...it is only now that we are bit by bit accepted as we are...but still the stigma remains...we, growing up innately depends on our family to accept us...because if YOU dont...who will?...you should know better since you probably have been there before...what would you have done if he were the older gay brother?....:)
2007-05-01 15:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by snakey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering the fact that we don't know how old your brother is Im gonna advise against mentioning anything to him... Confronting him can probably scar him... I had a friend try to commit suicide because his mom caught him kissing his boyfriend! he'll come out when he's ready... Its hard, and he'll need your support, and when (if) you tell your parents you need to be with him, and on his side.. he's still your brother, and nothing will change that!
2007-05-01 15:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your brother know you are gay or bi-curious? Being you are the older brother, your younger brother will always look up to you no matter who you are. If he is stand-off-ish about gay talk, then let him be until he is ready, but let him know who you are and your preferences. Believe me, if he knows you like guys, you too can have a rockin' relationship. (If he is cuter than you, then you might have to worry about him stealing your men, LOL)
2007-05-01 16:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by The ONE and ONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront him. As long as he isn't hurting himself or anyone else you need to mind your own business. He is your brother and blood is thicker than water. And why are you staring at your own brother in the shower? Sounds like you're the one with issues.
2007-05-01 15:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Jane Z. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What should your brother do about your obvious homophobia? He may have read this posting. He may have heard you make jokes about gay people. He probably should try to figure out how to deal with this prejudicial attitude. Should he confront you?
2007-05-01 15:20:04 · answer #11 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋