My parents have been divorced for about 5 years and they dont speak a word to each other. Im having my party at my mom's boyfriend's house, which I know causes problems. I want my dad to be there too, and he said he would be fine with going, but my mom isn't so sure.....what should I do?
2007-05-01 14:57:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, hold it someplace NEUTRAL. Your mom's boyfriend's house is not a place where your dad can feel comfortable.
Second, send invitations to both of them. Let them both know that the other is invited.
One or the other may not show up. Don't hold it against them. Just continue to behave politely, and keep inviting them to important events in your life. The best you can hope for is that they'll grow up and realize that these things are about YOU, and not each other.
You can't force this epiphany on them. You're just going to have to be patient. In the meantime, don't let it ruin your life by making your sad and bitter.
2007-05-01 15:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks that you get put in the middle of a situation like this. But they are both your parents, and this is your sweet 16...so regardless of where its being held, they both have the right, and should both WANT to be there. If everyone just can't seem to come to an agreement and it really means a lot for you to have both of them there....maybe you could try having it somewhere else more neutral, instead of your mom's boyfriends. Even though I think its your day and you should be able to have it where you want!
2007-05-01 15:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Chels!!!
First of all let me say that you are very mature for your age. I would recommend that you sit down with your mom & have a heart to heart talk with her. Let her know how you feel & how much it would mean for you to have your father there. I think that your mom would put aside her differences & think about your happiness if you explain it to her.
I can relate to your situation. My daughter turned 15 a couple of months ago & her mom threw her a big debut. Even though I had already paid for half of the party, my ex told me that she didn't think it would be a good idea if I came. She even went so far as say that she would make a big scene if I went. I let her know in no uncertain terms that she should think about her own daughter's happiness instead of her petty jealousies. I was not about to miss my daughters big day.
Needles to say that I went & everything turned out OK. I hope you that your party turns out the same.
2007-05-01 15:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say invite your dad your only going to be 16 once. I'm sure your mom and her boyfriend can put on a happy face for the day. ENJOY your birthday party and good luck.
2007-05-01 15:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anthill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww that sucks. I would suggest having a big party (which is what I am doing for my sweet 16 next week) and invite a lot of people, and have it in a big place. That way, they won't be near each other, and they don't have to if they don't want to.
But that's just a thought, I don't think that will always work out though.
2007-05-01 15:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by i like turtles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom how important it is for your dad to be there and hope she understands. Its a difficult situation and it might not be a good idea. If she says no, then respect her wishes and go see your dad after the party.
2007-05-01 15:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by crash27_m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mom and her boyfriend and tell her that it would mean the world to you if your dad could come. Tell her you know the don't get along but ask if they could try for a few hours to make your sweet sixteen a very specil birthday.
2007-05-01 15:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Malth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your mom that you'd really like to have your dad there. Tell her that your dad would be fine with coming to the party. Tell your mom that it's a special day for you and you'd like for her to put her differences with him aside for one day so that you could enjoy the day with both parents. See what she says.
2007-05-01 15:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them both to come. It's not your mom's decision. I think they should be able to act like parents for one day. They don't even have to cross paths if they don't want to.
2007-05-01 15:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your mom how important it is that your father be there and ask her in earnest to support you and tolerate his presence. It's just for a couple of hours, after all.
2007-05-01 15:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋