was it suicide?

Question

a very dear friend of the family died recently, absolute shock, and very sudden,too...i cannot get this woman dot (dorothy) out of my head.. and i have a strong gut feeling that she took her own life , post mortem revealed no cause off death(so her family are saying)
i dont ever ever get feelings as strong as this, but it wont leave me alone..
is their anybody who can he;p me with this,
i would appreciate anything no matter how small
kindest regards m

ascoil, i didnt expect you guys to tell me weather it was suicide..i was concerned about the way i was feeling

the family say the cause of death was natural causes, ..but im convinced they know she took her own life, and seem to be going on a guilt trip deep down

she was 54 yrs old

i have no intention of stiring up any trouble , nor mentioning this to any of the family.. this feeling is haunting me, and really it shouldnt affect me like it is , i have lost immediate family 2 inside 18 month, and i was not feeling this way

i have no intention of stiring up any trouble , nor mentioning this to any of the family.. this feeling is haunting me, and really it shouldnt affect me like it is , i have lost immediate family 2 inside 18 month, and i was not feeling this way

some of you who answered this question.. really do need to grow up and talk sense....thankyou to those who are thinking before answering

Answer 1

trust your gut instinct, it is the only thing that will never let you down...

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear this. Condolences to you and all concerned. For you to think that she may have taken her own life, points to me that you knew something that others may not have known. Are you feeling guilty in some way because you think you could have prevented it?. Well, be rest assured that whatever happened is not your fault, wether she went peacefully by nautral causes, or went peacefully due to suicide, whatever the reason, she is now at rest and would not want you being distraught. You could not do anything to prevent it.She is now pain free,mentally and physically, & happy. You need to now find peace with yourself and accept that she has gone to a better life, but will always be around in spirit especially to comfort you in this time of loss. Please respect the family too. But i would recommend that you go to a spiritualist church within the next year or so, as they can be very very good and accurate at passing on messages, and they are not con people either. Maybe this will put your mind at rest once and for all hun.
Blessings x

Answer 3

well before her death did she give you or anyone things of hers that she really loved or acted happy or whatever? They say right before a person makes their mind up that their going to kill their self they will do this like give their stuff away act friendly and be nice and everything and then they do it. Maybe you can talk to one of her family members and tell them what you feel I'm talking about a week and half after everything has died down a little because her family my be upset and just see if someone else feels this way. I believe you're feelings my be true i mean a lot of people are like this they feel a certain way towards something. But I'm very sorry for you're lost and i hope things get better for you and i hope you find you're answers! God-Bless!

Answer 4

It's highly unusual for a pm to not show the cause of death.

Respect the privacy of the family.
If she did take her own life, the family would probably prefer to keep quiet about it, not only to preserve peoples memory of Dorothy, but to prevent the scrutiny of others, who would want answers as to why her family didn't notice that there was anything wrong with her, and to stop people expecting the rest of them to flip out at any moment because they now have a history of mental illness in the family.

Answer 5

When someone decides to take their own life. It is usually because either things in life got to the point where they couldn't deal with life no more, so they end it. or they are hurt so bad by someone that they gave their heart to. that death is the only answer to end the pain and the hurt. or they become so ill that they are in major pain, or illness that suicide ends that tragedy that they are up against in themselves.
suicide takes a lot of strength to take one's own life. to beable to face death up front is an untilmate spiritual awakening. when the physical body dies. the spirit still lives on.. but unfortunatley, somtimes the spirit becomes stuck and doesnt know it can go into the light, and it can drift for years and years on the different levels of the plane that it is on. If you ever encounter a spirit, light a white candle and ask it to go into the light, that it is okay. and usually they will go. unless fear as caused it lay dormant where it is.

Answer 6

im very sorry for your recent loss but i need to know how old she was when she passed.

tthere are no natural causes to death the autopsy always says something and if they cant find the cause before burial they put on the death certificate unknown but i think she might have because youngeg people are less prone to die "naturally"(diseases,age,stuff other than suicide,accident,murder,or was intended by people other than god or whoever u worship)

she might have felt guilty about something or mabey she didnt she might have been killed but i think u should ask the family to conduct an investigation

to help you understand i know a great book for you to read to help you understand why people commit suicide its called

"Tears Of A Tiger"
by Sharon M. Draper

but beware this book is very emotional but its worth reading

also theres a trilogy thefirst is :

"Tears Of A Tiger"
second:
"Forged By Fire"
third:
"Darkness Befor Dawn"
in case you enjoy the first one all of them are worth reading you can get them from any public library,borders,other bookstores.

sorry for your loss but this book will give you a better understanding of suicide

Answer 7

I think if she had wanted you to know for sure- she would have left a note or something. Don't torture yourself by looking for someone to blame. Dot will help you if there is a balance to redress. It is very hard to accept when people die suddenly, and extremely painful too. We tend to look for someone to blame- but sometimes it just happens. You need to just trust that Dot would have let you know if she was taking her life, and if she had wanted some sort of retribution. I hope you will find peace soon. I feel sure that your dear Dot would not want you to be in such anguish.

Answer 8

If you are getting strong instinctive feeling regarding this, then I'd listen to them. That doesn't mean you have to stir up trouble by discussing your impressions with others who may not appreciate it, but sooner or later you will find out the truth and either have you instincts validated or proven wrong. Keep an open mind.

Answer 9

not sure if its possible but can you contact the hatch match and depatch (births death and marriages) office and ask them for a copy of the death certificate or see it? it seems a bit odd that the family would say there was no cause of death?? what she just went?? normally they would say it was age or medical reason!! like a heart attack!! or contact the hospital try anything at all! even go to the extent of lying if you feel that strongly about it and say you are related!! you might get some answers then!

good luck and sorry for the loss

Answer 10

you may never know for sure (even if some evidence does support that conclusion). accept that.

you need ot make peace with her death somehow. Talk to someone (not the family) about your concerns; a therapist, pastor, a wise friend... sometimes we gain insights that can seem too much for us, and sometimes we look for meanings in things that have none. Only time and reflection may ease your way.

Best of luck, my friend.

Answer 11

Whenever someone dies that we know it stirs up 'stuff' from our depths. It brings up our own feelings of mortality and, ultimately, feelings of our own death.
Temporary counseling sounds in order.
Be thankful for these feelings; they give you the opportunity to examine them!

"Death is only like moving from one room into another,
but in the new room I can see and I can hear!"
➬ Helen Keller