I'm in love with my straight friend. He's so freakin' adorable. However I think the most i can hope for with him is the ability to fool around. But when I think of him physically, I don't get aroused. I don't get repulsed either, it's just blank. I think I've fallen for him because of his character, and the manner in which we interact. Is it normal to be intimately aroused but not sexually? What's wrong with me?
2007-05-01 13:47:05 · 7 answers · asked by confused student 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
PS
Whenever he is with a girl, it kinda hurts me inside. One night we were sharing a hotel room and he asked me to leave so that he could be alone with a girl, it hurt me so much that I started drinking. (I rarely drink). I did it so much he ended up having to take care of me. That made me feel worse.
2007-05-01 14:10:38 · update #1
It's okay to love someone without having sexual feelings for them. There are many different kinds of love.
2007-05-01 13:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you.
You have feelings for your male friend and you have made the mistake of thinking they are physical.
No.
Its OK to have feelings, but there is no need to assume a physical relationship.
You simply enjoy him ....in a healthy way.
2007-05-01 13:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh ya i've definately had that. Part of mine was absolutely the personality (he even knew about me and was not only fine but interested in how it all was) but i think a little of the whole thing was that i couldn't have him (at least i never tried). But anyway, it is definately possible.
2007-05-01 13:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two parts to romantic love:
1. The need to be sexual with someone...
2. The need to love and be loved...
We run into many problems because we assume those two ideas are one in the same.
2007-05-01 13:53:05 · answer #4 · answered by Julian X 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
damn it why do our friends have to be so cute
and not gay
sure youre normal if you dont get aroused
ps. i liked your ps it was full of sadness
and he had to take care of you
2007-05-01 14:18:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the lime is drawn,its just does not follow through on it devolped on any further level
2007-05-01 13:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
2007-05-01 13:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by *DIVA* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋