I can cite many instances of love being torn apart on various grounds such as materialistic gains, caste, religion and region, good looks, parental pressure etc. Very seldom the person invokes empathy on the shattering mental impact left on the affected. While the victim actually benefits from the release of life tied to an unsteady soul for life, the agony of separation is likely to leave a lifetime scar on the affected. In this context how do you define one such person?
2007-05-01 13:29:49 · 17 answers · asked by Nimit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In today’s materialistic world the importance of LOVE has diminished to the extend you find it only in few romantic novels, poems, epics, stories & typical TV serials only. The institution of marriage is nothing but institution of family trading where some one purchases & some one sells, high class banquet halls, farmhouses, various diplomatic & stared hotels, luxury cars , imported flower arrangement, diamond & golden ornaments, high class social gathering, foreigner dancing troupes, high class music system & musicians, along with mixture of traditional uttan & mendhi ceremonies, bachelor's party & ladies sangeet, inclusion of movie , TV & stage actors & what not. Prior dowry settlement, demands as well offers. High class astrologers matching & fixing janam kundlis & tawas according to stars positions, charging high rates. Family pundit jee being pampered during each ever marriage function. Relatives & friends getting more then their dues in each & every family function, eager to wear traditional Rajasthan pugris to remain in lime light during the main marriage function. In this shinny atmosphere you want to search the LOVE. Even if by mistake any of them bride or groom had an affair with some one else that person is picked & thrown out as a fly from the cup of tea. This all happens prior or at the time of marriage but incase some one gets a chance to do so after his/her marriage due to family pressure to dump the previous spouse & go ahead with an new match, he or she won’t mind as what all they had dreamed once could not be fulfilled but now a second chance is there for them to have it. If you may be gaining in crores & few lakhs you have to pay for previous life partner to get dissolution of the marriage nothing wrong in such a trade. What about the sentiments, love. affection, "who cares" let some author write a story for TV serial out of it all typical ladies in Indian homes love such stories. As far defining such a person is concerned, no definition can be given as all are same when it comes to making money is concerned, never compare love with money as latter is always far much stronger then prior. Some may call such person cheat, bewafa, mutlabi, fraud & what not, but tell me who cares!
2007-05-01 21:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There can be several reasons why a person would allow themselves to be moved by such pressure for example religion or family. I have movd from US to Sweden and married an Iranian. The cultural differences have been sooooooooooo hard. My family hates me etc...... While being in Sweden I have heard of many people who love each other very very much get torn apart by their families becuase of caste or religion or whatever. Some have even ben killed or beaten into leaving of course if they have been killed then they left involuntarliy. But family pressure can have a very pronounced effect on a person and if the family is very strict the person that left would not show remorse in front of anyone because then it would show to the family or the families friends that that person still cared about the other and then the family would put more pressure on the that left.
As for leaving for materialistic gains or good looks or cheating then they were not worth your time. I know that there are religions out there that discourage women/ men not to marry someone that is not in the same league as they are example if one family is rich and the other poor. The poor ones family would definately encourage thepoor one to get married it would help that family especially if there is a dowry involved(payment to the family for the bride) If the rich one thought that is the only reason they are getting married then they would definately discourage them not to get married.
I am sorry if something like this has happend to you and it takes very strong people to say no to a family but if it happened to you then you are worth more than they are saying or doing to you.
2007-05-08 18:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even begin to decipher what in the world you are talking about. How could you think that the victim could in any way benefit from such a relationship much be intentionaly trying to invoke any kind of empathy. The other person in thje relationship has totaly got them screwed up mentaly and emotionaly.
2007-05-01 13:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I describe the person who is left, furlonged, depressed, deprived, soul tied, angry, hurting, wanting approval and acceptance, wanting to hurt someone else in the way that they were hurt, wanting to get back at the world for what has been done to them, unforgiving, victims, hopeless, and more than anything a basket case. Been there, done that don't want to go back to that hurtful place.
The person that left is simply a selfish bastard
2007-05-09 04:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depressed
2007-05-08 21:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by PENMAN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to judge a person, first of all. Secondly..maybe this person just didn't like you as much as you liked them. Since when is being happy a selfish/contributory act ? Get over it and move on. You shouldn't just pigeon hole someone to make yourself feel less hurt.
2007-05-09 09:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I understood what you are talking about, but the use of so many unnecessary words, turned me away from what you was trying to get across and it made me laugh at people trying to sound highly educated. I think everyone on this site is very well read, but we are also very relaxed . Please loosen up your belt and breathe. Now start over and put the dictionary down.
2007-05-06 23:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty good question
Just reading your question I would have mentioned the person would protray a Prostitute or a Gigolo.
But then reading your explanation I would say "Lucky Bastard!!" - One needs to be really lucky to do this with no one behind to trap you in any entanglement!!
2007-05-08 10:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you portray a person who leaves his/her craving LOVE and run after other contributory or selfish gains?
a coward.
2007-05-09 07:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by cascadingrainbows 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters are ppl that has to be punished and has to be tied up to GODS HANDS so that they will never ever hurt anyone
2007-05-09 06:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋