Of our modern idea of a 50-50 relationship? A company, a sports team or a country will fail with no leadership and not having someone in authority, could the same apply to marriage? I'm not saying this means the man has to be the one with that authority.
2007-05-01 12:29:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you. I think you should go into a marriage with a 100% attitude, that way you don't get let down from keeping score all the time. This 50/50 stuff is a bunch of crock. Sometimes you have to be the one to be willing to go ALL the way, instead of insisting that your partner "meet you halfway".
2007-05-01 12:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No where doesit say a marriage must always remain 50/50 or will it. Even with a sports team or company or whatever, when the going gets tough the stronger player or employee at that time steps up and takes charge and gts the team or company thru the challenge. It will not always be the same person stepping up each and every time. Only a robot could ever do that with any consistency and since we are human beings, there is no such thing as a true 50/50 relationship. Sometimes its 60/40 or 30/70 but overall it means that either mate in a relationship has a 50% of stepping up at any moment. Besides we ar lucky that mn doesnt have that authority as we all have seen what man has done with the world since the beginning of time
2007-05-01 13:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the reason we have such a high divorce rate is too many people get married without truly understanding what it really means to be married. In todays generation it is a selfish one and that is a factor on why there are a lot of divorces. Marriage is a partnership and it takes time, commitment, love, passion, communication, and trust to keep it going. Most people just throw in the towel when they hit a rough patch, or have a stupid affair (which again goes back to the selfish thing). It is not about one lording over the other for a marriage to work.
2007-05-01 12:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced. I would say that if I was honest in this 50 -50 society it makes the man miserable not being boss. As a woman I always thought I was right so it caused a lot of friction. In a 50 50 situation if you can not agree to disagree no one will make it. The best relationships are ones that do not get upset if the are not agreeing, they just accept it. The problem is respecting someone enough to let them be in charge. Often in marriages the respect gets lost.
2007-05-01 12:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in the way that 50/50 means you are both only half responsible. The truth is that you are both 100% responsible for your marriage and its well being. If every married person gave there marriage 100%, I think alot of marriages would be saved. On the other hand, I feel privilaged to live in a society that allows us to make our own choice to leave if we need to.
2007-05-01 12:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree more.
If you think about it, you hear people say "oh, we were too young" etc, but in reality, people are getting married much later now then years ago, and those are the marriges that are failing. I don;t think it has to do with imaturity, it has to do with the fact that the partnership of marriage and how it functions has changes. Each person fighting for equality as opposed to working together. At that point its too easy to say "well, the going got tough, and i don't need you anymore"
2007-05-01 12:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dr25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting.
I've thought that people have shown lack of responsibility when it comes to marriage.
I've heard too many people blame everything on the spouse and NOT accept responsibility for their own actions or lack of action to make the marriage work.
Maybe 50-50 relationships promote this pass the buck mentality.
2007-05-01 13:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel when entering into a marriage the mutual respect and understanding for one another has to be there.... there will come a time when say the woman has to take control of the situation and the man should respect and understand enough to let it happen and vice versa....everyone has weakness and strengths and together you work that into a marriage....
2007-05-01 13:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think so, I dont know any couples that have a 50-50 relationship, theres always one boss. But im an aussie so I guess that answer doesnt really apply to your question!!
2007-05-01 12:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by pecanchew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If somebody in a relationship has to much authority ''over responsible" The other spouse will rebel against it in time. A relationship must be as close to even as possible to be healthy. When my wife left me for a coworker all she told me was "your just like my father" I learned alot from that one.
2007-05-01 12:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋