2007-05-01 11:56:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for those of you that are wondering what led up to this, please click my advatar and look under my profile of previous questions from last night. It is under "what would you do in my situation"......
2007-05-01 12:17:58 · update #1
Oh.....and he is acting like it never happened. Going on like everything is normal.
2007-05-01 12:20:53 · update #2
I think in your situation, it only means he wanted it back, or had been expecting it back after the first postponed wedding. Obviously he had been rethinking his situation since the day he asked.
1. The engagement has been 1 1/2 years!!
2. Your living with him instead!!
3. Before the "move in date" it was all a lie!!
You are obviously displeased and unhappy. $700-$900 a month more in SSD isn't going to change that. You're going to end up spending it on somebody whom your not impressed with to begin with.
You're only going to get bitter and angrier (*) as the days go by. Who needs that. I think giving the ring back was the best move at this point.
He doesn't care, if he did he would be making you happy just by him being there. Telling (not asking) him it's over and he needs to leave would be the second step.
2007-05-01 13:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would you do if the shoes were reversed? Sometimes the best thing said are the ones you cant hear. Obviously, their actions or non-actions have or are doing their job or you wouldnt be on here asking a question like this. This persons non actions are apparently getting to you. What did you really expect what would happen when you returned the ring? Did you really think this person was going to be really excited and relieved? You probably tore this persons heart out and now youre worried that this person didnt care? Why are you all of a sudden worried about how this person feels? Are you feeling guilty and having regrets now? A little late isnt it? A law of nature; for every action there is a opposite and equal reaction. Think about it. Good luck
2007-05-01 13:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is approximately comittment. this is stating which you promise to be along with her continuously, and which you adore her greater effective than she will ever comprehend. i think of that an engagement ring desires to be over 10$. in case you are able to discover the money for a a number of hundred(or thousand) dollar engagement ring, than why get her some thing low value and plastic? She is the affection of your love, she merits each and all of the diamond and rubies inthe international. Now, in case you are able to no longer discover the money for plenty, a greater value-efficient ring is high quality. i'm no longer asserting the costlier the greater effective, Im purely asserting that in case you will hit upon the thank you to get her a posh ring, yet opt to no longer, than you're no longer treasuring her good. Its the affection you place into the hoop that concerns. somebody who does not care approximately engagement jewelry, or is a penny pincher, and buys a low value ring isn't exhibiting how plenty sacrifice he's prepared to make for his spouse. a guy who somewhat loves his woman would be prepared to sacrfice as plenty money as he can to purchase her a captivating ring. If i could no longer discover the money for a huge ring, she would be the two happy with some thing low value. yet considering i will discover the money for a hoop, i comprehend that she would be disapointed if i did no longer get her a sturdy ring. the quantity you place into the hoop DOES result the symbolism. If i offered her a low value ring, it would lose symbolism. i will discover the money for a fancier one, so what am I telling her whilst i purchase her some thing so low value? i'm asserting that i do no longer love you sufficient to spend extra money on the hoop that symbolises i'm going to be with you continuously. -------- @Mayem: you are able to insult as much as you like, i actually do no longer care.
2016-10-04 05:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you rendered someone speechless. It doesn't mean they don't care, just that they either don't know how to respond, or they are too hurt to respond, or they don't know how to respond without anger, or don't think you deserve a response. Or maybe they feel guilty about something. What did this person do to make you give back the ring?
2007-05-01 12:04:48 · answer #4 · answered by StrawberryShortcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things like this have happened before, the other person could just be numb to it by now, and it might not be that they don't care, they might just be tired of the constant threat looming over their head...so in a way, they have some sort of relief from all that drama.
2007-05-01 12:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..................Hard to say, maybe and maybe not. Depends on the reason rings were given back. The severity of the change of mind. Sometimes it's just an act. It's one of the biggest decisions you'll ever make. Kiss and make up!!
2007-05-01 12:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by bliss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you did NOT complete the scenerio for us IE like explaining what caused you to break the engagment. Then from this standpoint you DO NOT deserve any explaination from your partner male or female. You cannot expect us to tell you what you want to hear unless you tell us the facts. So do you deserve an explaination from your partner???
2007-05-01 12:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by born_tomd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your other question and it sounds like the guy is doing you a favor by not caring. You're very lucky to find out his ways BEFORE you got married. He said it himself - this is the real me... I was only putting up a front for the past 2 years. This guy is a jerk. Take your single-life SSIC(?) and have a healthier life for you and your daughter away from this man.
2007-05-01 13:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by THATgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Excuse me! YOU gave the ring back and you want to know if you hurt them deeply or not?????? Wow, I am surprised you got one in the first place..or was this a childish ploy to see how he would react? If so,now you know. Good luck with this game.
2007-05-01 12:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you want them to care? Do you care? You returned the ring to him so he thinks you don't care. If he said anything or not is irrevelant since you were making your feelings perfectly clear.
2007-05-01 12:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋