my friend and i didn't want to be friends with this one girl anymore, so we were going to tell her in choir, but we chickend out. my friend told me to just write a note in science (next class) so i did, i included my friends name in it. she starts crying, goes into the bathroom, and comes back 15min later. everyone asks "whats wrong?" so she shows all of them the note, after that evryone comes up to me and says "your soooooooo mean, why did you do that to her?" then our school counselor comes in and talks to our teacher, and our teacher gives me this lecture about being "nice" is it my fault? or my friends fault? or the friend who told everybody?
2007-05-01 11:39:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
No. you shouldn't get blamed. It's your choice on who you would like to be friends with and who you do want to be friends with. Those people need to get over it, it's not their life, it's yours. Nobody should get blamed for it, besides I bet that girl is a big sissy for crying like a big baby over a broken friendship that wasn't working in the first place.
2007-05-01 11:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Alea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why would you ever stop being a friend to someone? True, people can be annoying, hurtful, or even downright mean, but that doesn't mean you have to tell them you can't be friends. Usually friendships should end when you no longer have anything in common, or you can no longer spend time with each other. And sometimes friendships can end with an argument or a series of arguments. (Not a good way for a friendship to end, because this can cause a bitterness to eat at you for the rest of your life) The rule of thumb for friendships is to "Treat others as you would like to be treated." If you can live your life like that, then your social life will become much smoother and more fulfilling.
2007-05-01 18:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Jaguar_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in this situation many times, from your point of view and the girl you told. Trust me i got the whole lecture thing too, except my guidance counselor told me i HAD to be friends with this girl. If you didn't want to be friends with this girl it is a good thing you told her but it wouold have been better if you told her to her face. As hard as it is to do that it is a lot easier to explain the situation. It is by no means her fault though (unless of course she did something to deserve losing you 2 as her fiend) Even though it wasnt "just" you who made the descision you have to take atleast some responsibilty because you provoked atleast part of the situation. Take my advie and just try to do the right hting and think before you act because drama sux.
2007-05-01 18:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by drummergrrl2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the fault of both your and your friend for chickening out and dumping this girl in a note, instead of having the courtesy to tell her face to face. Better yet, you should have talked to her about WHY you didn't want to be friends with her anymore, and tried to solve those problems, instead of just dumping her.
You were probably also pretty rude in the letter, if the teacher had to urge you to be nicer. You should apologize to the girl for hurting her feelings.
2007-05-01 18:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur fault for writing the note but her fault for not trying to back u up....sorry if it sounds harsh but there probably was a better way to say it...it is ur friends fault for everybody saying thing about u....
does that make sense? everybody kinda shares the fault i guess
2007-05-01 18:44:49 · answer #5 · answered by *~*rocker chic*~* ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends alot on why you don't want to be friends with this girl did she steal your boyfriend did she spread rumors is she mean to you? i cant decide if it was ok for you to get blamed but you should have definitley told her from speaking instead of the note it would have saved you tons of trouble. i think that it is the friend who told everybody it was her fault.
2007-05-01 18:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by hello k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is ok to be blamed. You were the the one who wrote the note and now take the responsibility. If you did not mean it , you should not have written it. This teaches you early in life to be smart and responsible. think before you write.
2007-05-01 18:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Babu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that her pain is all of you guys's fault. You were all in on it and felt the same way, so it wasn't any one person. I think that you could have put her down in a less harsh manner though.
2007-05-01 18:43:45 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wrong why you and your friends couldn't be woman enough and tell it to her face. I mean whats goes around comes around. Don't be surprise if someone does the same to you. We are only human learn from your mistakes sweetheart.
2007-05-01 18:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Miss.California 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's BOTH your faults. You don't tell someone you don't want to be their friend anymore, when they haven't done anything to harm you. Learn to take other people's feelings into consideration before you do something this hurtful.
2007-05-01 18:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by quoth_the_Rav3n 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋