Problem holding on to a job?

Question

My fiancée was working at a hospital as front window person. She wanted to be a administrative assistant. There were no openings at the hospital where she was working, so she found a job on the outside. After about 2 months she was fired from the new job. There was a period of about 6 months before she landed a second job as an administrative assistant. She was canned on that job also after about 2 months. She found a third job and the same thing happened. She never passes probation. She says she's trying hard, but all the jobs say pretty much the same thing, that she’s not catching on. She has an AS degree in computers, but none the less things are working for her. I've suggested that she try another line of work, but she is determined to be an administrative assistant. She's depressed now and tired of looking for work because she feels if she getting hired, the same thing will happen again. What can she do about this dilemma? She's driving me crazy with her depression.

Answer 1

I think she needs to admit to herself that she is not cut out for this type of job and needs to find something more suited to her. Unfortunately, you can't force her to - she has to admit it when she's ready. In the meantime, you could gently nudge her into taking action to learn a new skill or use a skill she already has. You could do this by doing any number of things... Like maybe pay attention to what you know about her...what is she really good at or enjoys doing - i.e. hobbies and other interests? For example...say for instance she is really good at giving parties - great invitations, fun games, good food, etc. Then she may be good in a service industry like a florist or a party-planning business or a catering business. If she is good with kids...maybe a job in day care or as a teacher. Help her find her niche by complimenting her on what she does well in her personal life and then help her find the proper education (if needed) and/or the right employers for such career.

Good luck and be gentle with her...I'm sure she's feeling like a failure and that's not going to help her in her current jobs or in making any changes to her career path.

Answer 2

There are a lot of jobs that are similar to being an AdminAssist. You may ask her what she likes about that type of work and what she doesn't...then have her go to an employment agency that places people. It actually works pretty well - you can be brutally honest about your likes and dislikes in a work environment - and you have no commitment to work for the company if you don't like it - you can ask to be placed somewhere else...plus if she likes it and does well the company will most likely hire her on full time. And she can "test the water" that is what I have ended up doing because I am tired of starting a new position and 3 -4 months later realizing I really hate what I do or I am getting bored already!

Answer 3

Tell your fiancee to go look for another position. Since she isn't catching things so quickly and all the employers want an administrative assistant to be quick thinking, then if she doesn't have the capabilities to be an administrative assistant. There is nothing wrong with going for another associates degree to get more training.

Answer 4

Take a vacation with her so that she may relax and remove her depression. After your vacation help her find a job and try again. Tell her that every failures are stepping stones to success and that soon enough she will be an administrative assistant.

Answer 5

Maybe she should try to get a job as a receptionist and work her way up to an administrative position. It will give her a chance to get used to the company, the computer software they use and the work element. Maybe she should try taking some business classes at the local jr. college, using computer software programs, filing, business letter writing, classes like that. Adult schools offer those kinds of courses as well.

Answer 6

Help her pay for a degree from a university, perhaps in Management Information Systems. It's basically administrating databases using computers. She could also become certified in Oracle and manage databases for $125k/year. Most certified Oracle programmers usually have BS/MS in Computer Science.

Answer 7

She is obviously not applying herself at work, and if she continues, she probably won't hold a job. You need to convince her, gently, that hard works = success. She can get hired again, but she needs to prove to herself that she can do the job,a nd do it darn well too. She needs to apply herself, bust her butt, and get into the good graces of her supervisors....right off the bat. No slumping off or just getting by.

Answer 8

Get a job at home. All she has to do is work on her computer and help people online. Tell her to find out her favorite things to do other than administartive assistant and tell her to find some home jobs that have to do with that! She'll be happier and so will you.

Answer 9

they do no longer look to be allowed to hold your examine till you signed an authorization for them to withhold value of uniforms or kit once you have been employed. they are allowed to mail it to you in the event that they decide for. touch your supervisor or the administrative and ask them once you are able to %. up the examine or whilst it will be mailed. in the event that they grant you with any complication, don't get rude or loud, in basic terms enable them to know you would be contacting the exertions board approximately your unpaid wages.

Answer 10

I agree with your suggestion that she find another line of work, she's obviously not happy with what she's doing now.