Hi,
I'm questioning my sexuality but I'm also wondering what the average age that people 'come out' is. Can I please have some feedback on this, and maybe some opinions on when people should come out? Thanks.
2007-05-01 09:50:42 · 7 answers · asked by Joe 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks for the comments, and I was just wondering. I wouldn't ever 'choose' to be gay, I would definitely rather be straight. I don't want to be made fun of and I want to be able to have kids..
2007-05-01 11:39:03 · update #1
I'm just asking at what age you guys think a person is mature enough to be able to be able to know practically for certain their sexuality, and when you think they might be mature enough to 'come out'. Again, I really appreciate all the comments; you guys give good opinions. Thanks.
2007-05-01 11:53:16 · update #2
First, just because you're gay doesn't mean you get made fun of. Bullies will pick on people no matter what, if it's not over the gay issue, it's over something else. If you educate them, ignore them, or stand up to them, they go away.
Next, just because you're gay doesn't mean you're infertile, lots of gay people have kids, it's not taboo anymore.
Next, if you're gay, you'll know, you'll always know, it's just a matter of understanding the terms that define sexuality, and which one best fits you. So read up on terms of sexual orientation, and see where you fall in those terms.
Then you just have to be true with yourself, because you're all that matters, you can lie to others, and run from them, but you can't lie to yourself, and you can't outrun yourself, so give yourself the gift of honesty and peace of mind.
Lastly, I think most come to terms with it in their teens, when they're confronted by the fact that it's seen as different, so then people realize that maybe not everyone is like them, and they learn of the spectrum of sexual orientation, and will see they fall somewhere else on it.
As for coming out, it can vary, some people will never come out to others, other people do it in their teens. If I had to guess I'd say teenage years are when most people come out, because it's when you're coming to terms with yourself, and discovering yourself.
2007-05-02 05:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the average 'outting' age is, but that is something You really shouldn't take into consideration if you are Questioning. Every person has their own way, and their own time.
Coming out is a tricky business. All I can say about timing is that you should be sure. It is not a -choice- *Snort* to be made lightly. Visit advocacy groups. If you are still in school and it has within it an Outreach or Support group... Go to it. Find a gathering or support group in your area.. contact GLAAD or PFLAG members. Talk to your parents and friends. Let them know you're questioning. If you can't bring yourself to talk to them, find someone you can.
"Gay" or "Bisexual" Is not a trendy bandwagon to jump on. It can be dangerous, it can have severe consequences and it is not a lifestyle I would recommend taking on without some serious thought, and Inside searching.
It can also be the biggest journey of your life. The chance to be who you really are without hiding. The world today is still a little backward, but it's a much more accepting place to be Open about who you are.
2007-05-01 17:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Siddhartha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 right now and a while ago i came out to an old school teacher and just recently i came out to my two pen pals. They all took it well and didn't care. I would never tell my parents because I'd get kicked out and I'd be homeless then. So my point is don't worry about statistics stating when you should come out or not but just do it when you feel comfortable and most importantly only when you're in a situation where no harm can come to you. And definitely make sure that you're not living with your parents (if they're homophobic that is - as you don't want to risk being thrown out on to the streets) when you tell them that you're gay or bi or whatever.
2007-05-01 17:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Me Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you are comfortable with who you are, and know for sure that you are gay, bi etc.. It is a personal maturation and a matter between yuo and your family. Whenever you know, be honest and upfront from the begining, don't hide who you are or put it off. You can grow as a person when people understand where you stand. xo Good luck
2007-05-01 16:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most people it is right around the end of highschool / start of college age. You shoud come out to your parents after you have moved out of their house, to your friends as soon as possible (since having friends who know about you and are supportive makes life much more bearable), and to the world at large whenever you have weighed out the pros and cons for yourself. Just be aware that admittance of homosexuality is one thing that will forever affect the way that person views you, it is wholly irreversible.
2007-05-01 17:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There probably isn't an age as soon as you know for sure this is the lifestyle you want or how ever you believe that is when you should tell people.
2007-05-01 16:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by ~sunflower 26~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whenever you make the choice.
because that's what it is.
a choice.
2007-05-01 16:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo admins are virgins 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋