My boyfriend and I have dated for 6 months now. I am a single mom and I have no insurance. I was on medicaid but I now make too much money for them to cover me but just not enough with all of my bills to have regular Insurance. I have decided to go to family planning but it is still going to be expensive. I need birth control. My boyfriend has offered to split the cost or even pay for it. I feel it is my responsibility to do it on my own but he rebuttles with that its benfitting him also. What do I do?
2007-05-01 08:47:38 · 17 answers · asked by akskdm3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I live in WI and working full-time hours at a part-time status. I make about 10 dollars an hour. I live/rent with my brother with my child part-time also.
2007-05-01 08:59:54 · update #1
He already pays for everything: Drinks, Dinner, Movies. I finally paid for the first meal last night!
2007-05-01 09:02:17 · update #2
I dont regret anything that has happened in the past...my son is my first priority. Its not that he was unwanted...just bad timing and unsafe sex!
2007-05-01 09:27:02 · update #3
I think it's great that your boyfriend wants to split the cost. I think that he should, since you are taking BC because you BOTH are having sex.
Sounds like you have a good man!
2007-05-01 08:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Making the choice to have sex should be a shared responsibility. As such, you should be happy that he is willing to do is part. If you are so stuck on "it's my responsibility to do it on my own", then why are you in a relationship?
You have done the responsible thing for yourself and chosen to use birth control. Now do the responsible thing for your relationship and allow him to share in this responsibility.
My god, you are a single mom and complaining about a guy willing to be responsible?!?!?!?!?! Are you serious?
*****************EDIT*************
Additional details added helps to clarify your quesiton a bit. If he already pays for quite a lot, then your concerns about not "doing your part" are a bit more understandable. Also, not knowing your previous histroy, it would probably not be too much of a strech to assume that you have concerns about being too reliant upon a partner - especially only 6 months into a relationship.
That being said, in this case the idea of him sharing in the responsibility still applies. To bring better balance to the relationshiip, do as others have suggested and find other ways to "do your part" - ways that you feel contribute just as much.
Also, unless your relationship ends at the end of the month, then no argument is valid about "what if he leaves and you can't pay for it on your own?" Unless you are a whore (which you certainly DO NOT SEEM TO BE) then the chances of you "needing" birth control immediately after a potential break up is not likely.
I certainly hope that this relationship continues and does not end if that is what you want.
:-)
2007-05-01 08:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by wyntre_2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're having sex you should be on birth control. You do have to get it prescribed by a doctor. You should use condoms as well as an extra precaution and also because the pill doesn't protect you against STDs. The morning after pill is not birth control. It is used after having unprotected sex to reduce your chances of pregnancy. You can get the morning after pill at the pharmacy without a prescription (as long as you are 18-so if you're not and you need it, get someone who is 18 to get it for you). The morning after pill should not be used as birth control-it should only be used on the rare occasion that you have unprotected sex or if you're method of birth control (such as condoms) fail. If you're nervous about going to your family doctor (I'm assuming you're under 18) for birth control, look online and see if there's a planned parenthood or a teen health clinic in your town. You can make an appointment and get birth control without anyone contacting your parents. Good luck!
2016-04-01 04:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most reliable is "The Pill", that said, abstinence is a close second. Waiting until you are married to have sex would be the best recommendation. especially if you don't want to raise another child on your own.
Don't go without it if you intend to be sexually active.
The cost of the pill is minimal compared to the cost of raising a child. Find a way to pay for it.
Define expensive?
$50 a month for the pill or $500/month for daycare?
2007-05-01 08:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 100% correct though. He will benefit from this as well. If yous aren't ready for a child together it is the best idea. For the pills out here in Ohio there is a program called Planned parenthood, they are a free service and will prescribe birth control pills. They are $30.00 a month for the medication and as I said the appointment visit with them is free. You go once a month and it is taken care of. There are a ton of programs out there, but I also think you should let him assist you in getting the birthcontrol. It shows that he is a great guy and willing to accept responsibility for the things he does or wants to do. Take care and good luck. :D
2007-05-01 08:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your responsibility if you insist on having unprotected sex with a guy who is only willing to pay for birth control until he's tired of the relationship and moves on. leaving you where?
are you prepared to be a single mom of more unwanted children?
all methods of birth control have a possibility of failure.
result - pregnancy and another unwanted child,
you are already a single mom - as you pointed out.
isn't the best rule to follow - "no commitment - no sex"
no marriage - no sex
it's best to wait for him commit to marriage.
sure you can let him pay to play
after marriage!!
2007-05-01 09:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by birdwatcher 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if he is willing to pay for it and wanting to have sex i would either have him pay or split it... he loves u and and if you love him you would just let him do what he has to do.... unless u wanna end up with another kid which will cost even more money???
2007-05-01 08:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Condoms are not a very effective method of birth control, just so you know. I would encourage you to wait much longer than six months to have sex, even until you're married. (I waited until I was married and my husband did not. He beats himself up over it to this day that he gave himself to other girls.)
2007-05-01 08:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, they say it takes TWO to make a baby so technically he is half responsible for preventing it. I would definitely let him help pay for it. He obviously wants to be careful and responsible....why punish him for that?
2007-05-01 09:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by emrobs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he sounds like a great guy to offer to help you cover these cost.
2007-05-01 08:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by layla983 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him help. Its better for both of you if you are on birth control than not on it. besides, if you feel that bad about it, pay him back when you can.
2007-05-01 08:52:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋