this is probably the most stupiddd question ever!!lol but im goona ask anyway..hehehe?

Question

how the hell does one stop being sooooooo sooooooo indecisive?? any idea,s its really grating on my nerves i know theres probably no answer ,but what the hell i thought i,d ask anyway to see if anyone has any ideas..or you think its just women? or maybe just part of my personality?? thanks lol

Answer 1

You don't trust yourself. You actually make decisions every day and they work out well. Believe in yourself, you're already making the decisions you think you aren't.

Answer 2

I do think women have a more difficult time. And perfectionists an even MORE difficult time.Do you ever say to yourself, 'What is the worst that can happen if I make the 'wrong' decision?' Usually it is a person who has a overinflated sense of their own power in that they think that this decision has to be RIGHT and the person has the power to make it correctly. Often it is not a wrong or right decision but only a different choice. Everyone makes mistakes.

Answer 3

Think First...Then Talk.

When a situation comes up that requires a response, take a minute to get your emotions in order before blurting out an answer. That way you will not have to retract what just said, or contradict yourself with your next statement. If nothing else, you'll look thoughful and concerned, which you obviously are, or you wouldn't have posted in the first place.

Answer 4

It's really simple. Set a time to think about how long you will take to make a decision (unimportant decisions may be a few seconds and important ones maybe hours or days) and make a decsion. You can make a decision, you just keep second guessing it. Don't worry about second guessing it, just stick to it anyway. For those very unimportant decisions (i.e. where to eat tonight) flip a coin.

Answer 5

Make a decision, even if it's just by tossing a coin in the air to help, and stick with it. But keep it in your head that, even if you make the wrong decision, it's not the end of the world! As long as you learn from the mistake you're a better person... that's what life is all about. (Geez... where did THAT come from??)

Answer 6

I have the same problem of being indecisive. I think it comes down to the desire to please others. Like, if a group of friends are trying to decide where to eat, if you become the person who decides and not everyone likes the place, then you feel disappointed in yourself for not finding something everyone likes. Because we want to please others, then we just kind of stop deciding in everything we do and let others make the decision for us. The only thing to do is just to learn to express your own feelings and thoughts, even if it means not pleasing everyone.

Answer 7

Start with confidence and self esteem. Having confidence in your judgment will help in finalizing a decision. If you have low self esteem, then how can you trust yourself in any type of decision making? Dont be afraid of the final outcome of any decision you make, as long as you weigh in all the good and bad factors of each one! Good luck!

Answer 8

It's your personality. You need more self esteem. Once you have that you will be able to decide things and know that it's right for you - Without being wishy-washy. That trait in people drives me crazy. I know there are some people that probably avoid you - don't they?

Answer 9

Just make up your mind and do it is the best thing for me. Perhaps it will work for you too. Take hold of those little decisions first; once you've mastered them you can go on and master those bigger decisions. Remember inch by inch and step by step.

Answer 10

It's not just women. I have no problem making decisions. You simply weigh the pros and cons and pick the side that weighs more.