Girls:How to ask my mum this question,what shall I start with?

Question

I need to bring up the question when she got her period,because I heard that you get your period around the age your mother did and so I want to find out.But I never talk to her about things like that and I don't want her to think I started mine,she might freak out.I want to ask her many questions about that,but I just don't know how to..If you had the same thing how did you start these "talks"?
Some help would be greatly appreciated!!!Thank you all!♥

Answer 1

My mother and I hadn't always been open to conversations like those, and I like you, was very shy to talk about it at first.
However, once I started asking questions our relationship became stronger. Its just a matter of getting the guts to bring it up. But once you do, you'll be glad you did, and your mother will be too! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Hi, Emerald. Just ask her the same way you asked us, and tell her why you want to know. I know it's not easy to start this kind of conversation. Make sure you have a little peaceful moment with your mum when you do it. Offer to help wash up, for example, and ask her then. Or you might try writing her a note, explaining that you're writing a note because you're worried about how she'd feel about the question. Some parents are easily embarrassed so your mum might be embarrassed. But you can help her get over it by gently asking the questions you really need to ask. Asking her questions like this might also improve your relationship with her.

Answer 3

Well my mum first told me about this sort of thing when I mentioned the fact that a girl in my class had been saying she started her period when she was like 9
So I asked her if this was possible and the conversation spread on from there.
I totally get where you're coming from with the whole awkwardness thing.
I didn't tell my mum at all when I started
so why don't you just try the other girl story and see what happens
just say it really off hand
or try a really disbeleiving tone of voice like.
'this girl in my class was being so weird she told my friend that she started her period when shewas like 9 is that even possible?'

don't know if that helps or not but that's what i would do

Answer 4

Hi there Sorry for your troubles. It really is your mother's job to start these talks about puberty, sex and relationship issues at around age 8 and continue as needed. Just start. If she is immature and gets upset, find a substitute. Another approachable adult can help you with your questions. Not every parent is approachable. Parents are not taught parenting 101. Just see her initial reaction and withdraw if she overreacts. One cannot force people to change some aspects about them. There are many helpful people out there. Your mother may not have the facts right anyway. Many adults are filled with myths just like children. Test the waters and if needed go to plan B. have a nice week.

Answer 5

Well the bit about you getting your period at the same age as your mum is true, I did. Drop the question is casually, maybe sit down with a teen magazine, look through it with her and have a look at the problem pages, maybe there is a quetion about periods, maybe she might see it and then you can casually drop in the question: "By the way mum, when did you get your period....?" Good luck! I hope it goes the best for you! Don;t be afraid!

Answer 6

Don't worry! She was your age once and had your same problems! She'll totally understand if you want to ask her these questions, after all, she IS your mother and she had 9 months of you in her belly, she sat there and pushed you out, she wached you take your first step. She helped you when you needed help, and took care of you when you were sick. SHE IS YOUR MOTHER, AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND. For conversation starers, ask her about the firsts in her life, first dance, first singing on stage, ect. That way, the question of when she first got her period will come naturally! God bless!

Answer 7

You might be misjudging your mother. Why would she necessarily "freak out" over a question about your period? It's a natural process and happens to every woman.

Give your mother a chance. Maybe she would welcome the opportunity to help you and educate you.

Maybe you could approach her by saying "mom, I'd like to be better prepared when it comes, so can you tell me what your cycles were like at my age?"

Oh, and you wont' necessarily start it when your mother did. It's more likely but definitely not a guarantee. I have 3 sisters and none of us experienced periods like our mother. She started very early and had severe bleeding but none of her girls did.

Answer 8

Once I had to talk to my mom about something serious and I asked her to take a walk with me. When we got away from everyone else in the house like Dad and my siblings I just asked. It's a little easier if you try to incorporate some humor in it too. She's your Mom. Thats what she is there for. She won't mind. She loves you. Good luck.

Answer 9

Well, I remember how my mom talked to me about it. I was younger and we were at the store, she put pads in the basket, and not knowing any better, i hollered, Mom what are these pads for. When we got home, I got my first lesson. That's one way to do it. But you're best way is to ask her outright. Remember, she's been thourgh what's happening to you. She knows what it's like. Sure, not everyone is comfortable talking about that type of thing, but it's a part of life.

Answer 10

One way you could bring up the subject is to tell her one of your friends got hers, and she told you she got hers around the same age her mother got hers Then ask your mom how old she was when she got hers, and say you are making a comparison.