I am 19 years old, married for 8 months, I have known my husband for 9 years. We are thinking about adopting but do you think that it's too early? He still likes to spend money on stupid stuff and go to friends house and drink. Do you think it's a good idea to do it now? Or should I wait?
2007-05-01 07:06:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It's probably early to start the process (many agencies have minimum age and length of marriage requirements), but you can definetly start looking at your options now. We adopted our first child when I was 25, but I have been researching different programs, agencies, etc. for several years before that.
It also wouldn't hurt to attend an adoption orientation given by a local adoption agency. It'll give you a chance to plan ahead. You also may want to start an adoption savings account. Unless you are planning on adopting through foster care, there will definetly be fees involved.
Good luck to you!
2007-05-01 19:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Angela R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most adoption agency would require people to be at least 21. The adoption process can sometimes take months to a few years. But that really depends on what child you’re willing to take. If you’re willing to take a mixed race child or even child slightly older (2 to 4) you most likely will get one a lot sooner then if you’re waiting for a white infant.
Then there’s international adoption I have a friend who got a baby girl just recently from China and they started adoption proceedings Fall of 2006 and got their baby 14 months old last month (April). So really it just depends.
My advice look into different adoption agencies find ones you think you and your husband will be interested in, find their adoption criteria. Then maybe in a 1 ½ to 2 years. You could maybe start proceedings. Of course you’d have to hire an attorney. Then hopefully end up with a baby/toddler by the time your in your early 20’s [22 or 23]
2007-05-01 16:25:56 · answer #2 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd wait a little bit. It takes a lot of time, effort, and money to adopt and raise a child. I would let your husband finish up with his days of goofing around and acting like the kids that you still are. Why not wait a couple years..Until your 22 perhaps, then you have time for all the fun things that go along with late teen, early twenties years. Wouldn't you like to go out and party on your 21st bday? It'll be a little hard to do that with a baby at home to worry about.
2007-05-01 14:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From my understanding, adoption is not a speedy process by any stretch of the imagination, so even if you started the process now, it could take months or years for the process to be complete. It can also be very costly- legal fees, etc.... and since you are young, you may have financial obstacles ahead of you. Plus, I'm sure folks married for longer lengths of time may be given more weight than newly married ones, regardless of how long you dated. Bottom line- yes it may be too soon.
2007-05-01 15:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
adopting a baby is a big step. It's going to take alot of time to adopt it's not something that is going to happen right away, so if you feel it's something you really want to do I would do it.
2007-05-01 14:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lovemykids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋