I'm tired of being poor, yes I work. I'm tired of being ugly, can't change that. I'm tired of being fat, tried to lose weight, nothing works. I'm tired of being tired, baby doesn't sleep, ever. I'm tired of no one helping me, yes I've asked. I'm tired of my husband being mean all the time....
I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. Anyone else feel that way?
2007-05-01 05:54:20 · 11 answers · asked by customcat2000 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To the literal Question: Yes, I do wonder about that sometimes. Only thing I can think of is that we are being tested and *I hope* we are being made into something stronger and nobler for all the trouble.
To the Life Issues: I hear you. Been there on being poor, ugly, fat. Have three sisters who have been there on the kids and bad husband issues. I've seen it and lived it and ranted about it a *LOT* on Yahoo Answers here.
No really, go to my profile, check out some of my Best Answers sometime, some of the longer ones on Mental Health, Psychology and Politics. I hear you. I've typed short stories much in the same vein as your troubles.
And I won't burden you with a repeat of that again. ^_^ Suffice it to say, as a fat, ugly, destitute guy who has had things fail on him time and again in *spite of* his best efforts, courtesy of depression and post-traumatic stress issues (and being treated like a 4th class citizen all the way over them), I hear you. I know what you're talking about.
And as for the people who chime in with "stop the pity party": these people need to *grow a heart* and *grow a pair* already. They just need to look up the science, see that depression is an illness already, that it is involuntary and NOT EVER a flaw of character, and get the hell *over themselves* and their own ignorance. Really. It's sad. Why we *allow* these people to be so willfully stupid and so deliberately stunted in conscience, I have no idea. It boggles my mind at this point.
But I'm sorry, I digress, and I don't mean to burden you further.
Point is....I know what's up, or at the very least have more than *half a clue here*.
Please feel free to email me if you would like to know more, in terms of specifics. Thanks for your time! ^_^
2007-05-01 06:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Bradley P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ultimately, you create your own reality. You are chosing to maintain your current situation and only you can change it if you want. It's not easy but you can do it. Stop making excuses and playing victim. Nothing is impossible unless you think it is. If you convince yourself that life sucks, that nothing good will ever happen -- are you really surprised when that's all you end up with?
I know this sounds harsh and I don't mean it that way, just saying that things don't have to be this way. Of course, it would take some major hard choices on your part (for example, if someone treats you badly then why are you allowing it? Leave.).
2007-05-01 06:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by miss.x_tina 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Twenty years ago I was in your shoes. What I have found since then is that I was hardwired to ask in a negative way and that doesn`t work. Well it does work, but in reverse. By this time you really know what you want, so it is the perfect time to start focussing correctly. You can start off my making a list of what you want. That should be easy now that you know what you don`t want. On your list don`t even half mention anything that you don`t want, NADA!
Step two is to spend some time imagining exactly how it would feel to have any one of those wishes within one week. You choose. If you find that it feels better when you do this exercise, then continue to use this method. It works for me.
What we are looking for is a way to make yourself feel better because only then can you feel even better. How you feel pretty well determines what kind of life you attract. Get and read The Law of Attraction which is right now on the best-seller list and for good reason. It is helping to turn people`s life around completely. This same info is what I found in 1998 and which I am extremely grateful for. The journey of a thousand miles starts with one small step. You can do it.
2007-05-01 06:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by canron4peace 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A live is just a life. It will be full of some wonderful times and some bad ones too. Life is made up of moments. It's not like a movie. It's real. All we can do is our very best every single day.
2016-03-18 22:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried everything else, seems it won't hurt to try Jesus. Find a church you feel comfortable in and attend. If you can ask for an appointment with the paster and talk it over. We've all been given an assighnments, when we stray somtimes we end up not where we want to be, not doing what we want to do, not having what we should have. I believe we all have a star inside us waiting to shine. waiting to shine forth to light the world, our task is to discover how to turn it on. Sometime we may need to move, change, git rid of some stuff, go a different path and have faith that we can do it. Jesus is a process not a quick fix, begin speaking not what you see, but begin speaking ouloud (alone if necessary) what you want to see and begin giving thanx as if you already received it. Not a quic fix can't hurt to try, you can never go wrong with Christ. For example if you want financial blessing, begin saying Lord thank you for depositing 100.000 dollars in my checking account. Lord thank you for the five dollar an hour pay raise. Lord thank you for the great relationship I now have with my husband. Or thank you for putting a new husband in my life who love, apreciates and cares for me and shares all my trials with me.
2007-05-01 06:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by poncho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Value life more, honey. Sadly there is people with the world who sometimes are depressed. You state of mind can effect you like this. Try to Find happiness is everything else around you. Never allow another person to cause you to feel this way. If hubby is being mean you need find nicer people to be around. You need to surround yourself with good people. DO you have a friend you can talk to? I would go them. Find happiness deep within. Train your mind to be positive. If money is the opinion find a another job to bring some more in. I suggest praying to God for peace of mind and reassurance. Stay up! I am finding ways to be positive I have been to the point of being really down but I find strength within :) Music is also a good help ..
2007-05-01 06:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♕Soulful Dreamer♕ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things will change. They will get better. Coming from someone who has tried to commit suicide several times...it will get better. You have a job. Hold onto it. Leave the mean husband...he wont change. He probably makes you feel even worse. Don't give up. It will take some time, but you will start feeling better about yourself. Take care.
2007-05-01 06:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a similar situation with a critical spouse, and a baby who needs lots of attention with no help. I think that you really need to see a doctor, and tell them about your feelings. You seem to have deppression, and the best thing for yourself and your baby is for you to get some help. Please take my advice and seek some help.
2007-05-01 06:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only YOU can help yourself, take resposibility and change the things you want to change. There are people who are worse off that you. Look for the things you have to be thankful for, like your baby for one!!
2007-05-01 06:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Twinkle♥Toes 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
nope. I lost my wife tragically three years ago. I am now a single father of two young girls.
Stop with the pity party. You should be ashamed of yourself.
2007-05-01 06:02:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋