I am looking for people who have cheated or been cheated on, and have a successful relationship with the person that did the cheating or was cheated on. Did you/they confess? What strain did it put on the relationship? If you were the one who did the cheating why did you regret it and want to continue your current relationship?
yes i have asked this numerous times, just to get more stories, but after it leaves the first page hardly anyone answers, so i get more answers reposting, lol
2007-05-01 05:51:12 · 21 answers · asked by bluenaketat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
lol....I know what your saying about re-posting the same question. It's a huge bummer to NOT get atleast 10+ answers/ see....you'd think with all the ppl that get on Y!A that you'd get more hits? hmmm....
Well, about infidelity. I am currently married. I have been married for 7 years; but we have been together for 9. I have been faithful; but am sure as one could be--that he has NOT. I do not have any proof; I mean...he avidly denies, but I have ppl coming to me saying this and that and I add that to the general, all around "gut feeling" that it's true. So.........needless to say, after all these years and four children later; I am more than ready to divorce. It's not just what I mentioned, there is more to his behavior and our history that cannot be mentioned. So, that's that.
BUT.....before I met my current husband....I was engaged for awhile to a man that I had been with for a little more than five years. I loved him immensly, but towards the end....unfortunately..I cheated. He had been really depressed pretty much the entire time I knew him, it just felt like this dark cloud hovered over us the entire time we were together. He started calling me fat and was really stingy with money. I was only 17 or so, and it just had worn on me too much.....that is when the cheating happened. I never intended to cheat; I was NOT looking to get out of my relationship. But it day by day made me feel worse all the time. I ended up getting a job doing construction.....namely; roofing. It was there that I met the man that I would end up cheating with. Everyday at work; unlike my fiance, this other guy would just play me like the naive idiot I was. I mean, I did know he was just playing me to sleep with me, but it didnt matter so much anymore at that point because he would call me "beautiful" and "gorgeous": constantly. He would get me things and would defend me against a boss that had serious attitude. When it happened, I really cannot desribe how HORRIBLE I FELT. I couldn't believe I did it. I was caught up in it because; as evil and wrong as it was....It was the first time in years that I felt worth something attractive; and as bad an arrogantly SELFISH that was; I liked the freedom I felt to be happy..to smile....to be able to joke around with someone who didn't deny my EVERY attempt to brighten their day, as my fiance did. So, I ended up sleeping with guy a few more times and then put it to an end. The guy actually cried. Which was odd, as it was clearly understood that there was nothing more to "us" than casual sex and being co-workers. As soon as I did that; I immediately confessed to my fiance. From there on out, it was hell.....EVEN THOUGH he showed me NO affection, and that there was nothing I personally could do to make his outlook on life any better......either way!!!__HE LOVED ME NONETHELESS, alot me than I ever knew. He took the whole thing very, very hard. I could not simply recover the TRUST that was once there.
You ask WHY the cheater (I) regret doing it......because I KILLED ANY POSSIBILITY OF BEING WITH THE ONLY MAN I"VE EVER LOVED THAT DEEPLY, bc' I HURT HIM THAT BAD!! He cried, and cried and called me a whore everyday and it never got easier after that....he was too hurt and angry to get past it.....thus, the end of our relationship.
Hope that was what you were looking for?
Something I DEEPLY regret.
2007-05-01 06:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by º§€V€Nº 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on 4 people, because I didn't want to be in a relationship and that's how I broke it off. The 4 people I was with were manipulative and abusive towards me. So cheating was the only way to get rid of them. Cheating just can't work after it's happenned. Move on after you cheat. I would suggest not cheating. I have never cheated on my husband, EVER, he's my world and I would never risk that. When you love someone, don't cheat, and if you don't love them leave them and start anew.
2007-05-01 06:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually if a person cheats and their partner decides to stay with them it's most likely because they are comfortable in the relationship, they don't wanna start the dating game over again, or they have low self esteem and think they can't do any better or it was their fault. About 1 out of 10 people who stay with their partner, after hearing they have cheated, do it strictly because they love them. There is always more reasons (other than love) for why they decided to stay.
2007-05-01 05:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been cheated on once and i have cheat once.
The one that cheated on me broke my heart. He was my first love. We have a daughter together. Matter of fact he is the one who wanted to start a family. So one time we didnt use protection and here i get pregnant thinking he will be happy and we will be a family he just questions if he is the father. completely threw me off. so that was the breaking point. he stuck around and i was stupid enough to keep him because i thought i would love him forever. the whole time i was pregnant and up untill my daughter was about 4 months old he cheated on me with many girls and just used me. I finally woke up and stopped being around him. Up to this day we talk few and far between but everyone hes been with he has cheated on them. so i guess that part of once a cheat always a cheat is true. Now for my cheating. I was dating a man for 2 years. we always faught and would do our break ups and offs etc. Well i moved out of state to leave him and eventually took him back. he would always watch porn and read the mags and i couldnt stand it. one day i said i was gonna go find a real man and sleep with him. he just blew it off and said oh youlll never do it and that was enough to piss me off so i went out that night and did what i said. guess what he finally realized i was serious and we broke up for good and moved away and we never talked again. good ridence and the best thing that could of happened.
2007-05-01 05:59:37 · answer #4 · answered by rebelyankeelove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question to Author.
You are really obsessed with cheating..
Every question you have asked is about cheating. You may need to talk to the person you are cheating on and see if you can't fix your relationship because it is evident there is a problem because you are cheating so much....
Stop talking about it and do something about your current relationship!!!
Hope this helps!
You can tell that you care because you are needing answers but you and your significant other are the only two who can fix this!!
2007-05-01 06:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by missgoodgirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was cheated on years ago... I gave her a second chance though. What else could I do,, I had a 3yo and another baby on the way at the time... I told her if it happened again than that was it! I don't regret that decision as we had many good years (10) after I had time to heal from it all. Although, to be honest, you never really, totally get over it.
We are now divorced (for other reasons) and that is just as well, as I suspected that she may have cheated on me several other times....once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater....
I know now that I would NOT give my future "significant other" another chance...
2007-05-01 06:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was cheated on by my boyfriend in high school 8 months into our relationship. We separated for a month and then got back together. It was hell. We stayed together for about 9 more months and he just continued to cheat, lie, and generally treat me like crap. My self-esteem was so low that I stayed with him and continued to be a loving, supportive girlfriend. Eventually I wised up and dumped him, but not before tons of emotional damage was done.
I'm sure every situation does not turn out like this, but that's just my story.
2007-05-01 05:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Delvala 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was cheated on by my ex, decided divorce was the only way out of the humiliation and heartache, that true forgiveness probably would not occur, as i had forgiven someone in the past, and took them back, only to be cheated on again. finally my ex confessed, but showed no remorse, or willingness to save the marriage, so i moved on.best thing i could have done, as the strain would have made it just too hard to forgive it.
2007-05-01 06:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only cheated once and it was on my ex, he never found out because i hid it from him but i also left him for the man i cheated on him with...
The man i left my ex for cheated on me..He said he had sex with the other woman when we took our little seperation trial though i am not stupid i know he cheated on me anyways he got the woman pregnant and i broke up with him and about 3-4 months later he asked me to come back that he couldn't live without me so i said yes and all i could do was think about him cheating and the woman who he impregnated..I couldn't deal with it so for the second time i left him..
We are still friends and now he is dating the woman he got pregnant and his child is now a little over a year and he still constantly tries to get me to go fool around with him and send him dirty pictures..Fortunately he is not worth my time and i have a wonderful husband and he is the only thing that matters......
Honestly i do not understand how men and woman can remain in a relationship with their significant other when they have cheated...
I would never be able to trust them and everytime they were to go out i would always have it in my mind whether their cheating again or not and i couldn't deal with that...
I guess i can say i got what was coming to me, i cheated on my ex and then i got cheated on so i sort of deserved it though i don't think i was in the wrong for cheating.. ((i was 17 at the time)) and i was afriad to leave my ex, he treated me like complete trash, he hit me and nothing was ever about me((i was more his trophy wife)) it was all about him until i met the one i cheated on him with..He treated me great and it took my cheating on him to realize i could have better and didn't need him....
2007-05-01 06:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey in case you have already got info he's cheating ("So i think of my bf is cheating doing the internet difficulty I do have info, yet he hides his "cookies" temp documents which could hint what you're doing on line.. ") why would you desire to proceed torturing your self searching for greater info? purely kick him to the slash noone merits to be cheated on. i comprehend its much less annoying suggested than carried out simply by fact i'm confident you adore him, yet love your self greater. No guy is ever worth your tears.
2016-10-04 05:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋