Do you consider it disrespectful if a man looks at porn behind your back ?
2007-05-01 05:43:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i caught my husband looking at porn 3 weeks ago and we are in marriage counsiling for it . the counsiler says it is disrespectful and is poisin for a relationship . This will always ruin a marriage or relationship . It is wrong cause they are looking at another womens naked body and actually went to go look for this on purpose therfore it is highley disrespctful to the other person !!!
2007-05-01 06:22:09 · update #1
Hell yes!! If he is not doing anything wrong why is he hidding it. My best friend came home from work early one day and found her husband watching it . he was so into what he was doing that he didn't even know that she was standing behind him! He was masturbating and saying "oh yeah baby you feel good" and with that he exploded all over him self!!!! She just about came unglued..... She knew that he was off from work that day and came home early to be with him and had an intimate afternoon planned for the two of them!! She left him and stayed in a motel for days......she could hardly deal with him.....She thought they had a great sex life... the night before this they had over 2hr's of great sex...she holds back nothing from him! The porn he was viewing was of girls that looked like they were in their teens. They are in their late forties and second marriage only two years. She is trying with him but I think the marriage isn't going to last and neither does she.
2007-05-01 06:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem with my ex, everytime i wasn't home the fool was racking up our cable bill with porno's...
I was not sexually nor physically attracted to him, therefor i would not sleep with him so i understood why he bought porn...I actually found it funny all i would tell him was "seriously dude stop renting porn on our cable, just go out and rent videos or hell even buy them."
Though he did not stop ordering them through our cable which pissed me off because i was the one paying the bill damnit lol..
Now....If my husband were to watch porn all the time i would find it dusturbing because i always give him what he wants and because he has me, why the hell would he need porn???That is why i'm greatful my husband finds porn stupid...It's a waist of time and money if you ask me and it's kind of sad some men and woman have to watch porn to get off....Being in the show is a hell of alot better then watching the dam show!
2007-05-01 06:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kasja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on how a woman feels about porn and what her limitations on the subject are.
Personally, I think porn is a ridiculous joke. It really doesn't effectively reflect the sexual interaction between a couple and often depicts something as being pleasurable for all woman when it's really only a select few. If I found out that my spouse was watching it I would ask him why and try to go from there. I certainly wouldn't want him developing an addiction to it nor would I want him to put unreasonable expectations on himself or me based on what he watches in a porno.
2007-05-01 05:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lwood 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No. If you consider it disrespectful, maybe you are a little jealous of him looking at other women? I know I could be sometimes because the women in those magazines make me feel so unattractive, but take a look with him. He'd be amazed and it might open some doors for the two of you.
2007-05-01 05:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Krystal 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider it disrespectful. He may be trying to learn new tricks to satisfy his woman more. I used to get upset when my husband did it but I watched with him once and we tried out some new things, it was fun. The only thing I won't let him try is anal...ewwwww.
2007-05-01 05:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by Kalei 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he occasionally looks at porn, that's not disrepectful. Men are very visual, so it doesn't mean he finds you unattractive or is comparing you to these women.Lots of women like porn too, and if you started looking at it with him he wouldn't go behind your back.
2007-05-01 06:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa P 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To look at it, No to lie to me about it yes. I have no issues with him wanting to look, as long as he doesnt take action with someone else or lie to me about it, then its ok. But then again, im the wife who will look with him and not make it a bad thing.
2007-05-01 06:24:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say why look at porn when you have me am I not good enough for you! I mean if you ain't really the type to do sexual things much or at all then its a different story because then he has his reasons!
2007-05-01 05:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by brittany2569 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
yep.. its disrespectful to be lusting after another women especially naked.. what i would do if I were you.. ask him what turns him on, from YOU only.. find out what sources he gets turns on from.. learn from him, live out his fanasty.. and hey, you can always make your very own porn for His Eyes Only! (not only he would be turned on by it you might would too!)
2007-05-01 06:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by horsehealer09 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
a little. part of me understands that men are horny..then the other part of me says, COME ON NOW!~ he has to look at porbn to be satisfied?? what I can't do iot for him anymore ?? etc. my fiance looks at porn occasionally and it kinda hurts my feelings. Iwant to be the only thing he lust for..not a porn site. so I guess, yes it's disrespectful
2007-05-01 05:54:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋