during the 8 years the man has moved in with another woman, had 2 children brought a house, can't spend the night, never see you on holidays, time is always limited or rushed, you can only call his cell phone he turns that off after a certain time.
he doesnt even meet you financial needs. what is there to stay for ?
2007-05-01 05:27:23 · 26 answers · asked by creation 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the other woman does know about me.
2007-05-01 05:28:18 · update #1
he is not married !!!
2007-05-01 05:33:52 · update #2
I stayed in a relationship similar to yours (minus the children) for 3 years. If you are getting his affection that's all it takes to keep you stuck. There is a reason you are holding on and until you find it you will stay. It has to be on your time though. First learn the reason you stay...it could be as simple as he listens to you when you are sad or he looks adoringly at you when you make love...etc. After you figure out the reasons do everything in your power to fulfil your own needs and then do not communicate with him at all. You will eventually find you never really needed him at all. After a few months look around and you will find that there are other men out there who actually can love you...he can't...he's taken. Love yourself enough to move on and let him go...chances are he's never going to change his way of life with or without you. You are stronger than you might ever know. Staying with him only holds you back from what you are capable of. Cut him loose and walk away with your own dignity! :) Good luck to you.
2007-05-01 06:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by grams2faith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 25 minutes u told us exactly what u want to hear. That he's not marrried, and she knows about u? Who exactly are we talking about? He definitely has someone, maybe not a woman but maybe there's a possibility of a..... But that's not here nor there. The guy is not giving u anything but questions, that he can't even answer. No money, no honey sweetheart. DO u even know if the guy has a job? Maybe that's why thre is no stability, as far as the phone being turned off, maybe it's not even his. It could be borrowed and returns it after a certain tyme. Who knows? But I'll tell u one thing no one is that good for u to be wasteing ur tyme and energy. Blow it off!
2007-05-01 05:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it girl,, what is there to stay for?
Get out while you can still think for yourself and find someone else. Even if you spend the next 8 years looking, you are better off than spending another 8 years of going through what you have now!
Wishing you the best
Laura
2007-05-01 05:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by laura_va_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, I don't know of anybody that would stay in that kind of a relationship for 8 seconds, let alone years.
What exactly is wrong with you that you're subjecting yourself to this kind of treatment? You need to drop this guy entirely, cut off all contact, and enjoy a fresh start.
2007-05-01 05:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS GUY IS MARRIED - - - - -GET the heck out of the realtionship already - - - How could you not know this. TOO many red flags. Can't call his HOUSE - - - Can't see him on HOLIDAYS - - - CAN't spend the NIGHT (how would he explain this to the wife) - - - - There is NOTHING there for you - - - you have already wasted 8 years - DO NOT waste another second on this idiot.
2007-05-01 05:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by PizzapaulsONLYgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 05:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What is the reason you stay with him?
I would've left a long time ago. I need a pretty good amount of attention to be happy :) Not to mention all the other stuff that he's done.
2007-05-01 05:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Brandon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a family with someone else, stop kidding yourself!
You're just the little lady he keeps locked in the closet. Get out and get some self respect!
2007-05-01 05:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. You must have no self-respect to stay in that relationship. How do you know the other woman knows about you? She must have no self-respect to allow that either!
Find someone who appreciates you for you, and won't string you along as the other woman for eight years.
2007-05-01 05:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by amazing but clumsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! If you're the "Other woman" then what are you sticking around for? What are you getting out of it? Not attention, no financial help. You could do better. Please drop this guy, let him go back to his wife or whoever because he's just using you.
2007-05-01 05:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by xeroxliz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋