yesterday i was on my wife screen name im on today she at work i lot at her email and she is going out with some guy tonight. i know i cheated on he with my co-woker but i can't stand her see another guy she already wants a divorce but i love her i made a mistake but im willing to work it out but i cant get her to see it. Has anybody been do this i need some tips on how to get her back?
2007-05-01 05:06:44 · 34 answers · asked by airplanes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by the way i know where there going to dinner at i want to hurt this guy
2007-05-01 05:07:14 · update #1
i already cheated on her
2007-05-01 05:14:36 · update #2
i really didnt have an affair i just kiss my co-worker outside of the house cause you got mad that i dont take care of my better
2007-05-01 05:27:16 · update #3
first of all you created the bed that you are now laying in. You should have never cheated, have you ever heard the saying "by the time you wake up and realize how much I meant to you I will be waking up with someone else?" well thats what you have here. You shouldnt be snooping around in her email and just give her the divorce, if she doesnt want to be with you then let her go.
2007-05-01 05:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by mama 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't do anything stupid, get marriage counseling together, don't assume it's an affair. Document and get evidence if you want to escalate the divorce process and big bucks are at stake, but you had an affair, so maybe she's just getting even. It's a human response.
Maybe she's having diner with a lawyer....she wants a divorce after all. You better start thinking about getting your ducks lined up in a row.
Again, to get her back is going to take mountains of honest communication and growth between both of you, so go to a marriage counselor to do that!
2007-05-01 05:19:02 · answer #2 · answered by monsterfromspace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let me see if I have the facts... You cheated on her, got caught and now she wants a divorce. You've begged her to stay, give you another chance and she won't. She is going out tonight with someone and you want the guy to pay? The guy doesn't have anything to do with this. You and your wife are the problem and it's pretty obvious she doesn't want to be with you.
Just a note, once you are told that a divorce is coming, it's not really cheating, that's her way of breaking up with you but has to wait until the paperwork is filed.
2007-05-01 05:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by rothe_jabbuk 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Look, leave the other person alone this is between you and your wife. Funny how when we get in this position we always seem to want to HURT the stranger. But in reality the person that's doing this to you is the one you should be confronting. I look at it this way, if I understood your very difficult question to read, you've both cheated on each other. Obviously if your willing to do this to each other whats the point in staying with each other, your obviously looking for other things that each of you don't see in one another. If the two of you are not happy and content with each other you both need to get out of it. Don't you think life is to short to to live it being misarable? Especially when you can do something differently! And trust me if your looking for an answer that you want to hear than you won't take my advice. But you should. You know what you should do, you don't and shouldn't put yourself through this BS, tell her you've had it too and get on with your life, a much better one. MLJ P.S. and you know something, being alone and giving yourself some time to focus just on you isn't a bad thing....being by yourself isn't going to hurt you. AND one more thing. Why in the world would you put yourself in the position of hurting this other person and possibly going to jail for assault. Is spending time in jail, having a record really worth all that? Why would you want to add salt to the wound when you can just throw your hands up in the air and say screw both of them. I'm important here and it's time to start treating myself good. Luck to you MLJ
2007-05-01 05:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by MLJ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One mistake doesnt deserve another one. It seems as if your wife is still hurt. She does not trust you nor feel safe with you anymore. Just because you want it to work does not mean it will You made the mistake not your wife. Give her sometime as her is she wants to go to counseling if not then she is Fed Up... To be honest with you if a women is Fed up there is nothing you can do about it.. R Kelly said it best. Time heals all wounds and maybe this is not meant to be.. Question what made you stray in the first place?
2007-05-01 05:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Yolanda D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok here it is...she obviously could not get over what you did to her so she moved on and if she wants the divorce give it to her...you are the one that made it this way and now you got to deal with it. If you cant stand to see her with any other man then dont go to were she is going to have dinner tonight with her boyfriend. How do you think she feels everytime you got o work and you look at this woman that you cheated with?? She probably thinks that you are still seeing her no matter what you say to her to try to change her mind...remember you swore at your wedding to love and cherish her in sickness and in health and you CAN NOT honestly say that you did that by cheating on her first. If you loved her as much as you say you do then you would of never cheated on you wife and I think she is doing the best thing she can do and thats wanting to get away from you forever so she can be happy and hopefully he wont cheat on her because he just may love her more than you can or ever did!!!!!!!!!
Hurting him will only cause a fine for you after you get arrested and then she just might have a PFA (protection from abuse ) put on you and then the divorce will be granted wow do you really want to hurt your ego that badly???mmmmm
2007-05-01 05:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well let me start it this way cheating no matter who does it destroys lives,this I know for sure my wife of 19 years left me for another man,it has hurt our kids and messed up my life.What i would say is that you two get some help and stop hurting each other.I tell you the only thing that help me get over it was the love of Jesus Christ,and now I see my kids doing better and life is getting better,so let go and let God help you.
2007-05-01 06:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by downhome54 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never start something you cannot finish!
You made your bed now you must lie in it.
Get your divorce, save her and yourself alot of pain and end it quickly. Once a woman is hurt by a man cheating they will never be the same toward you and rightfully so.
Next time think before you do!
I don't feel bad for you but I DO feel bad for your wife.
If you truly love her like you said then you must let her leave and find someone who will treat her better and give her the love and respect she needs.
Sorry for seeming so mean but you did it not me!
Good luck!
2007-05-01 05:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ghostly Ghost! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pick up the co-worker you kissed have her dress real slutty and go to the same restaurant as your wife and when your wife starts trouble which she will (all wives who cheat don't want their husbands but don't want anyone else to have them either) you can kick the dog s**t out of this guy and say they started it and you had no choice but to defend yourself. and before you do this i would drain the money out of all the bank accounts etc. etc. and set yourself up finacially don't feel sorry for her the other guy will take care of her you should look out for #1 YOU.
2007-05-01 05:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. If she is asking for a divorce and seein another man its obvious shes done with the marriage. Im sorry but you need to let go and start over. Good luck!!
2007-05-01 05:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by Kim 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋