2007-05-01 04:53:24 · 32 answers · asked by lisa d 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It can be safe if it is done with other responsible people. The stats on safety and the manner in which it is gone about are a bridge you haven't gotten anywhere close to yet, however. Right now your biggest concern should be your husband's "insistence" on swinging/swapping. He should NOT be insisting on you doing ANYthing that makes you feel degraded or like less of a person. You can indeed swing in a healthy way but not if you feel you're doing something wrong. The only way to change that is to rethink your definitions of love, sex and healthy relationships. If you're happy with your definitions as they are, let your husband know that you have NO interest in swinging, and if he continues to insist, you'll have to tell him he's playing with your marriage by disrespecting you and your feelings and needs. He needs the proverbial slap upside the head, is what he needs. Time to wake him up to what he's really doing.
2007-05-03 14:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! He straight out asked you instead of hinting??
It sounds as if he is trying to cover up some bad things hes done already such as cheating on you. He figures if he gets you to swap he can get away with cheating and it will be all A.O.K. Or he is just plain out tired of the relationship and wants to slowly end it. Think about it hard and make a smart decision. If you want advise then say NO to the wife swap.
I dont mean to be so upfront and a bit brutal but you need to read between the lines.
2007-05-01 05:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Ghostly Ghost! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, myself would not do it. it's about as safe as any sexual contact with a stranger. If you choose to go ahead with it make sure you are prepared with a condom and remember usually is you wife swap once it happens again and again and the next thing you know you are sharing your husband with many others. My personal feeling is its the upfront way of cheating on your partner, but it isn't considered cheating because you know.
2007-05-01 05:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as safe as sleeping with any stranger- you can pick up a bunch of STDs not to mention the emotional scarring if you are being forced into something like that.
2007-05-01 04:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to pound salt...he can't make you do anything you do not feel comfortable with....no it isnt safe...there are so many diseases out there....have you heard of HIV? If the couple swaps who you are with...they have probably swapped with many other people...that's just a good way to catch something...& morally...I don't think it's right...even tho I'm opened minded...don't let your man push you into that...just be more experimental with him sexually (the 2 of you) so he doesn't get bored!
2007-05-01 04:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Statistically, only a small percentage of people who carry diseases will tell you up front. And for some diseases, like herpes for instance, a condom is not a guarantee of protection. And they can still transmit it even if they are not broken out......no matter what they tell you otherwise. Just try to keep in mind that it is your body and your decision alone.
2007-05-01 05:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by artgal1285 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look into your heart and see, is it just about pleasing him to make him happy? Then do not do it. You risk hurting yourself in the long run. If either of you are the jelous type it could ruin your relationship and cause headaches for you both. Just do what you think is right. But do it only for yourself if its what you want to do, not for him. You can never truly be happy if you try to please someone else.
2007-05-01 04:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by girly girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to think about it and you are not comfortable with the idea then DONT do it!.. Im assuming he wants to be a swinger? and probably only wants to drag you alone so he doesnt feel guilty about sleeping with another woman... But anyways... Yes, it can be safe if its done with another responsible couple
2007-05-01 04:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
On the show called wife swap? I see no harm in that it could help fix some of your familys problems & bring your family closer together.
2007-05-01 04:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by kyle 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If your not comfortable with the idea then don't do it. And
explain that to him. If he still insists then he isn't respecting
you and needs to be kicked to the curb.
2007-05-01 05:02:00 · answer #10 · answered by chmar11 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋