I have a sister with one married son, who lives across the street, and she is totally all up in their business, and now he's having problems with his wife, and my sister is totally committed to getting rid of her. Also her middle son (age 25) and his girlfriend live with them. The youngest is in college but will most definitely move back home.
Then, I have my sister-in-law and my brother who have one daughter together, yet there is a total of 10 people living in their house. Their daughter, her boyfriend, my sister-in-law's son by a previous marriage, his new wife, her two kids, and his two kids by HIS first marriage. Plus a menagerie of animals.
Isn't the idea to have kids and when they're old enough, get them the hell OUT of the house?
2007-05-01 04:19:54 · 15 answers · asked by kitten lover3 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Personally, I think it's all about control.
2007-05-01 04:25:01 · update #1
My oldest son moved out, and I see him probably once a week. I definitely don't get in their business, except to advise him to help her out around the house more.
2007-05-01 04:27:35 · update #2
A good rule of thumb is a distance of two hours. Why two hours? Two reasons.
1. It's not so far away that you'd have to stay the night.
2. It's far enough for the casserole to get good and cold.
2007-05-01 04:22:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends who your circle of friends are... My situation is almost the polar opposite of yours! I am 23, engaged and living as a married couple. My partner goes out to work, I cook and clean and look after our animals. When my partner comes home at night I do everything a "good partner" should. I moved across the country for him and his work. However, all of my friends are in your position - focusing on their careers and very happy in doing so. It makes me feel lonely, because they still go out clubbing, having fun with dating different guys, being young. And there is NOTHING wrong with either situation. In fact, I envy you. I don't know who I am, apart from practically a housewife alone in a new town at 23 years old. Maybe we both just need to expand our circles of friends to include people in similar situations? I don't think you need to find a guy right now and start a family. YOU know what will give you personal fulfillment, and that is discovering who you are and having an awesome career in law enforcement. If you met the right guy tomorrow the weddings and babies bit isn't something to be rushed! You say everyone else is moving on and maturing, but look at your achievements! Look how you must be maturing in ways that they aren't! It doesn't sound irrational at all, you are lonely and that is an awful way to feel. My advice to you is to embrace your situation, love your current friends but keep your eyes open for new ones that you can have a bit of fun with! 24 is still very very young and you have so much time to achieve everything that you want, one thing at a time :) But don't let lonliness take hold, love who you are right now and don't pressure yourself into making important decisions by what your friends are doing. It may or may not be right for them, but that doesn't mean it must be right for you! Take care x
2016-05-18 00:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let them go. I live about 10 min from my mom. Which is perfect because she is there if I need her but we don't see each other every day. Even though we talk every day we don't have to actually see each other. I used to live right next door and that got old because we were sick of each other. Now that we live across town, we are best friends. So yes I agree. Put some space in there when your kids move out.
2007-05-01 04:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Pdoodles 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things run smoother when the parents aren't nearby. Although I miss my parents dearly at times, when they come to visit I realize how lucky I am to live two states away! They visited recently and all my mom did was complain and let me know what a bad job I was doing in raising my only son who is well mannered, funny, super smart, caring and loving. She does a good job at trying to make me feel worthless. She's back at home and I'm back to normal. Works out perfectly! Each family needs their own space to run smoothly. At one time a sister-in-law of mine and her 7 kids lived with us for a month and it was chaos! As soon as they moved out we lived a peaceful and serene life.
2007-05-01 04:31:12 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser now 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live 5 minutes away from my parents (driving distance). I think that is the perfect distance. Anything closer would be invading my privacy and I would feel uncomfortable. It is nice having them close though.
I definitely would not live in the same house, or on the same street as my parents.
2007-05-01 04:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by star_lite57 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a sitcom waiting to happen!!!.. your sister needs to mind her business... or her son needs to move! (Do you watch Everybody Loves Raymond?!!!).. as for your brother and sister in law... that is chaos and insanity... I hope you live far away enough so that no one will ask to come live with you!!!
2007-05-01 04:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by WhoDidThat??? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 grown up children-3 of them about 15 min.away and the other one about an hour away.Always happy to have them visit and we get along great.Many times we have family get togethers,it great to see them all at the same time.Family is no.1 with me.
2007-05-01 04:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by CRISTINA S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like Everybody loves Raymond...
2007-05-01 04:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made me laugh. It is a matter of personal choice but your relatives seem to be doing just fine (lol).
For me i am enjoying my 'freedom' - my spouse and i have the house all to ourselves now that my daughter is married and living abroad.
2007-05-01 04:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by ann t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My experience says if they stay on the same street its to close, but this situation only souds crazy to you because you wouldn't stay their, and niether would I but some people just don't care
2007-05-01 04:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Thump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋