PLZ HELP! NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! long story...?

Question

ok, i go to a (no offence or racism) black, wanna be gansta, fresh, dawgy ghetto type of schhol. it's the only school that's availible for me so i can't go to a different one. ever since i've went there (7th grade, now in the 8th) i've been starting to act like them. i don't know why but i can't help myself. i try my best but it's like once i get in that school, i'm a different person. and recently, i've been starting to bring my attitude back home and my parents are saying (we didn't raise u like this" we're lossing him" and i don't know what to do. my parents think its my friends that are turning me like this and they are probably right. i don't know how to ditch my friends and i don't know how to stop acting like them ( if i stop acting like them i'll be an outcast and ppl will keep on messing wit me). also, there's this ugly, ghetto, black, ganster, wannabe, triflen girl who thinks she can mess wit anyone she wants to and acts like she's all hard and stuff. ever since the begining

of the school year, she's been messing wit me just becuz i ain't black, so yesterday i said "u think you're all hard and can mess with anbody u want to?, uh uh, it ain't gonna go down' like that" and she called me a "racist dog"! i really wish i could kill her. i'd actually go to jail willingly just to know she's been killed! i HATE HER. i do anything she'll ask like let her "borrow" lunch money, or pick up her damn pencil but she still messes wit me and anyone else who ain't black. what do i do?

i wanna stop acting this way, my mom actually started crying just now becuz she's sick of my behavior, i try to ignore the ppl at school but, if i do, it'll just cause more trouble.

i'm not racist at all, i just want her dead becuz she thinks she can mess with anybody. 3 of my friends are black

Answer 1

eat some cookies!! =)

Answer 2

I understand what is happening to you. I had the same thing happen to me and I am a lot older than you. Mine happened at a place that I worked. It was a different culture and I did not want to be part of it, but before I knew it I was becoming one of them. What happens is a nature part of our nature. Like dogs we are pack animals. It is natural for us to start to become like the people we are around to become part of the pack. I think it must be some sort of primitive survival mechanism within us.

I know you say that going to another school is not an option, but I would show you parents this answer and ask them if there isn't some way for you to go to a school with a culture that will enable you to grow into the fine young man that they have raised you to be. I hope that they understand that a different school in a more middle class area would better prepare you for college and to prepare you for the world. Where I live we have 'school of choice', or even if they need to send you to a private school they could get help from a church or something. The message I give to your parents is this: The teen years are most important in a young person’s development. There is a reason why most parents are concerned with the type of crowd that their child gets involved with. As you can see from your child’s question, it is very important that they hang out with other young people who have good values, positive goals in life, and proper English. You will reap what you sow, please move your child to another school. In the years to come you will be very grateful that you did.

As to the anger at being bullied, don't give her your stuff and do things for her. She will not respect you anyway and you will lose respect for yourself. Talk to a school counselor, they know your school and are familuar with these things and might have some good ideas. There are some good ideas from younger folks here too. Joining clubs, etc. with the kids more like you, if there are any. Good luck. Remember, show this to your parents. PLEASE.

Answer 3

I know how you feel. I went through a similar thing in high school myself and this was 12 years ago. Everyone was wearing gang colors and talking ghetto, etc. I broke out of it by joining clubs and getting away from it. I joined the drama club, a few light sports, and started becoming myself again. I made friends who were more like me and I felt a lot happier. Yeah, I kinda got into a nerdy crowd, but I was more relaxed and didn't feel like I had to impress anyone. Just give it a shot, see what types of clubs and recreational activities are available at your school and even talk to a counselor. Don't worry.. high school is just a few years out of your life, when you are out of there, it will be a whole different world. =)

Answer 4

Ignore her. She just wants attention. And I would try to behave at home , try to help your parents around the house( take out the trash, dust, clean the restrooms, ect) Be a better son, this way your parents will think you are responsible and not bad. Still hang w/ ur friends, but u don't have to act like them to be their friends. Act like "YOU" and if they dont want to hang w/ u then maybe they are not good friends and then u need new friends. Don't worry we all go through these stages in life.

Answer 5

It's normal what you are doing to fit in. But you have to loose the act when you get home, don't embarrass your parents by the way you act. I can tell tell by the way you type-spell that you are trying to talk like them. STOP. It only makes you look less-educated. You can fit in without changing yourself. If they want to beat you up for not acting like them, then that's the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Tell a teacher or something about that girl, she needs her butt beat.

Answer 6

Awww! Poor you! Well I think you should find other people to hang around. But it is normal for you to start acting like them without noticing sometimes cause you get so used to seeing it you just automatically do it. It happened to me once in 5th grade, im in 7th right know. but im still in the same school but just with other people. you can mail me and ill help you more and ill give you my email so we can talk if you want. Hope that helps!! :)

Answer 7

Go visit your local jail and get scared straight.

If you can pull off the act and maintain straight A's, then Mom/Dad will likely leave you alone.

But, the peer pressure to be like the losers will drag you down.

One day, you will have to make a decision that will separate you from the gangsta friends.

What are you going to chose? Friendship and jail, or a life?

Answer 8

It takes courage to be yourself and not conform. You're young yet...you'll find your true self in time...I don't blame you for adjusting your behavior to fit in somewhere to keep out of harm, but treat it like an actor playing a role. When you leave school, that acting role is over and it's time to be the "real" you.

...and get counseling for the desire to kill another person. That's not kewl, it's a sign of mental illness to have so little regard for another life.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You should be home-schooled.Far too many of our youth of all races are being dumbed-down and indoctrinated with slang mentality and globalist antichrist views.You are being conditioned to be a serf in the New World Order.

Answer 11

do what you have to do to survive. i went to a school just like you and who i was back then is not the person i am right now. your a teenager, and every teenager gets an attitude with their parents. relax you are just growing up.