I have a work mate who said that she is still awaiting her decree absolute to come through from her estranged husband.
She had an engagement party on Saturday.
Do you think this is morally or ethically right?
2007-05-01 04:04:27 · 50 answers · asked by Rebz 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she left him.. moved to another city.
this man she is with now, used to be with her best friend!
He is divorcing her on the grounds of adultery!!
2007-05-01 04:15:18 · update #1
Your work mate sounds crazy to me, how can someone get engaged before they are even divorced - divorce takes time and when a marriage ends the most sensible thing you can do is give yourself time before jumping into a new relationship. I am sorry but I strongly disagree with this persons actions.
2007-05-01 09:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are worried she moved too fast, that may not be the case. For some people, the marriage is over way before the paperwork finalizes it and she's been over it for a long time... I don't know if having an engagement party before your divorce is final would be morally or ethically wrong, but maybe it is a little tacky.
2007-05-01 04:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by fiona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...this one gets more complex the more I think of it.
While this may not be a gray area because she is expecting the divorce to be finalized, you could say she is guilty of being preemptive though I doubt being preemptive is the same as being wrong. She seems anxious to move on and, psychologically speaking, the engagement party may have been needed for her to help her move on from her old bad relationship.
An event such an engagement party may help your friend come to terms with the reality of the new life she is trying to pursue with her new man.
As a coworker, you should definitely support her. Now THAT's morally right! :o)
2007-05-01 04:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by CTORJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have 3 alternatives a million) attempt to maintain a lid on each little thing and possibility finished give way of your marriage and his if some thing replaced into to get out at a later date (simply by fact in that undertaking you will does not have basically been untrue, you will have been untruthful to boot. 2) Confess each little thing on your husband and your lover's spouse. If confessions are to be made, besides the indisputable fact that, then you definitely would desire to be one the single to do it - for every physique in touch to pay attention it from every physique else would paint you in an excellent worse gentle. 3) Run away. None of those are somewhat large techniques, yet i'd think of that the 2nd direction is the sole first rate one. a minimum of that way you will have been easy and the implications of your strikes will come once you're waiting for them.
2016-10-04 04:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot proceed with marriage to one man when you are still married to another. I am sure your friend thinks that the area of time will secure the 'wrap up' of one relationship and she can continue with the other. It is obvious that she is so ready to move on, but not willing to wait until the legal paperwork has been completed. The ethics and morality of these events are really up to the people who are involved. We are only on the outside looking in. "I", personally, could never do it unless all ends were tied and complete.
2007-05-01 04:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres anything wrong with it,shes only engaged, I have been in the same situation now for over a year, Im trying to save up to get divorced! I was going to do it myself but it will still cost £300 evn though we have been separated for 10 years and kids have grown up
2007-05-01 07:01:08 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no ties to her husband, so I don't see any problem. Although I wonder how long ago she separated from her husband and if she's jumping into another marriage quickly. There's nothing morally wrong with doing it, but of course, it's kind of stupid and would likely be setting her up for another marriage. So I don't think it's wrong - but possibly kind of stupid unless she's been going on with this divorce for years and has been with the new guy for over a year or so already.
And, of course, religious fundies would say it's morally wrong because she's still married, but if she's not a religious fundie, who cares what those idiots think.
2007-05-01 04:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course. If she's separated and estranged from her husband why shouldn't she find new love? Her marriage from that point on is purely a legality, there's nothing emotional there. My fiance is still married to his wife because he can't afford the divorce yet - but it's just a legality. In his mind and in his heart she is his EX wife, his future is with me now.
2007-05-01 04:08:54 · answer #8 · answered by Spazzcat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the final divorce decree is just a piece of paper. Obviously the marriage is over, the rest is paperwork, and the paperwork is not what makes the commitment there or not there.
The marriage license as well, is just a piece of paper, and the piece of paper is not what makes the marriage a marriage.
2007-05-01 04:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's neither morally or ethically right, but everyone has the right to do as they choose. your work mate chose to do something that isn't so bad in their eyes, at least there wasn't a marriage ceremony before the decree absolute came thru.
Nowt wrong with it if you ask me ...
2007-05-01 04:10:37 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋