man and woman meet in their childhood - stay friends through school - same man and woman live together for period of time - man has 'legal issues' and disappears - few years later they find each other again - both are contently married but not necessarily happy - they live a great distance from one another - they spend next few years talking on phone and email, rehashing old times - man says he loves the woman and will wait, no matter how long, for the day they can be together again - says the woman makes him feel things he hasnt felt in a long time - says there's nothing he wouldnt do for her, all she has to do is ask -
Are they cheating on their spouses even if there isnt an actual relationship, there's no physical contact - only words exchanged when there are no witnesses?
2007-05-01 03:20:11 · 17 answers · asked by mizryLayne 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is very much cheating. If they honestly feel this way they should be honest and leave their contented marriages since they are not really content anyway. If they do not feel this way they need to quit degradeing themselves and their marriages. Marriage is sacred. The people should either be ethical to their marriage or leave. Why stay and lie when they don't really want to be with the people they are with?
2007-05-01 03:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Stormy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is cheating. I have to agree with the person who said emotionaly cheating. They need to put this effort into the relaionship they are in. If they can't do this, then move on with thier lives. They aren't being fair to thier spouses. If they are so unhappy in thier relationships that they seek another to fullfill thier needs , something is definately wrong somewhere. JUST REMEMBER the grass isn't always greener on the other side! This may seem good now, but picture yourself with this other person for a lifetime. Will you actually be happy? Or will you be back on here with the same question sometime in the future, if you leave for this person? Try to work things out at home. God Bless you.
2007-05-01 10:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel to know your spouse is having a very emotional relationship with someone else. I would bet you would consider it "cheating". I divorced my last husband for this exact thing....because I believe it is more difficult to end an emotional relationship than it is a physical relationship. Besides it is always easier to make yourself more appealing when you do not have the everyday stuff to take care of...only the fantasy of being with someone else. My quess would be that the grass is not greener...And you both may end up alone and not very happy. Besides if he will chat with another women (you) what makes you think that when someone else comes along after you are together he will not have another "friend": to chat with. There is an old saying.....if they will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you.
2007-05-01 10:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by jtcurry58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you have to hide it from your spouses then there is something wrong. This is unfair to your spouse, if you knew they were doing the same thing behind your back how would you feel? Would you think they were cheating if they were doing the same thing? Say a couple years down the road you are with this other person & overhear this person you are talking to talking to someone else the same way he is talking to you now would you consider that cheating? Really, think about it, a lot!
2007-05-01 10:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by love_um_or_leave_um 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever there is an emotional connection between two people (with intentions of an intimate relationship) they are having an emotional affair. If you are even asking if it's cheating then it is. Would you want your husband or wife to be talking to an old boyfriend or girlfirned...probably not. Then don't do it to them...the grass is never greener on the other side...you'll find that they guy or girl have problems too. Your husband or wife deserves your undivided attention or that relationship will diminish. Goodluck
2007-05-01 10:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes.Have you been thinking about having sex with him?And have you pushed your spouse away even a little?If you answerd yes then you are cheating.lf you love your spouse then it would be better if you put some more space between you.Body heart and soul.your bodys arent together but the heart and souls are.good luck.We only have on shot in life be happy
2007-05-01 10:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by breadgirl2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot tell your husband or wife what is happening, that is wrong. Cheating isn't only the physical act, it is betrayal of trust. Also put yourself in the spouse's position. Would that be okay if you found out this was occureing with him or her? If you want your marriage to work. Stop, otherwise, behonest with yourself and you spouse.
2007-05-01 10:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally they are cheating. For them to be saying those things it is completely unfair on their spouses and they should either decide to stop and just be friends or try and make things work between them but without cheating and sneaking around.
2007-05-01 10:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by i_ate_sponge_bob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that is an emotional affair. Do their respective spouses know about this communication that they are having? If they are so not happy in their marraiges then they should get out. Think about what that could do to your spouses if they think that everyhting is okay and here you are having an affair.
2007-05-01 10:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Lori M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how their spouses defined cheating. It seems pretty borderline seeing as how they have feelings for someone other than their spouse, yet are stringing teh spouse along. Its cheating of the heart.
2007-05-01 10:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋