Okay, all my life I have liked guys, like the two hundred and fifty seven other girls at my school. Weird thing is, I've got this huge crush on my best friend, hannah! Gay and bi people at me school are beaten, have their lockers raided, and the teachers dock their grades. Should I just keep a secret? My friends are wanting new crush info- and soon.
2007-05-01 02:15:24 · 18 answers · asked by serenityfan76_is_backish 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well let them know you have a crush on a guy online that will save your butt and give u time to find a way to handle how u feel about your best friend..keep it to yourself for now jot it down on your Journal use an alias for her so if anyone does read it your safe..example: Jane becomes Joe..hope you don't have to go through BS like harrassment at your school for being what you are..don't worry sooner or later they'll get theirs..good luck~
2007-05-01 02:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Charmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm PRETTY sure you are just paranoid and listening to gay and lesbian people that say they are being 'oppressed' and having their grades docked etc.
If for some reason this is true, that is sad - but I don't understand the whole situation very well.
I can honestly say I have NEVER been attracted to a dude. Well, there was this one time I thought this guy was a girl from behind while we were driving down the road while I was young and drunk (wasn't driving)...but I washed my eyes out for a week after hehe.
Anyway, back on track here : I believe ALL woman are attracted to woman. I think that actually shows a sign of maturity, not necessarily lesbianism. There are COUNTLESS stories of woman feeling this way and convinced by their Lesbian peers that they are lesbian. Only to find after years that they were not lesbian, just curious.
Like I said, I think all woman are Bi-Sexual a bit. If you are hot, noone is going to care. If you are a short hair butch bull type woman..then people will just find it gross that aren't of that influence.
If I were you, I would keep it a secret until you are sure of things. It may be just this one girl or, you may be going through emotional things such as rejection from men, depression, hard times at home/work/school etc. Just mellow out for a bit and go with the flow eventually.
If people are holding you hostage to your feelings in the long run and you're completely sure of your new 'feelings', then you need to move from that area. Don't worry when you go to college you'll find more than enough 'different' people there to hang with. :)
2007-05-01 09:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by supadupa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your best friend Hannah know? If I were you I would keep it a secret until your feelings are clearer. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to your female friend, this happens all the time. Best advice is to see what comes of it...if you and Hannah decide to act on your feelings then you might want to let your other friends know before they become suspicious. But if you are unsure there is no need to get yourself into all that bull at school.
2007-05-01 09:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...what those people are doing can be called a "hate crime"?! If you see another gay person's locker get raided or if they get bashed...you should be a decent human being and tell the teachers...or call the cops!
I really think you are just going through a phase...you probably don't think of anything sexual about Hannah...you probably just really like her because she is nice and friendly to you...just stay friends...by revealing this secret it could backfire and you might have no friends left...
2007-05-01 09:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by GirlsAreStupid!ThrowRocksAtThem! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell others, if hannah is into you too then you have a great secret. Wait until college to tell friends, otherwise you will suffer for it. In schools people are small-minded and cruel.
2007-05-01 09:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by bluecat_pur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... first off.... i don't think teachers can take grades away for being gay or bi or anything for that matter. and i know ALL YOUR LIFE has to be about oh what 15 years??? i would just keep your secrete to yourself and not lose a friend over it. tell your friends its time for YOU to hear their new crush info... keep yours to yourself... its probably just a faze! (hopefully)
2007-05-01 09:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Joannie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was gay i would completely proud of it, if people at your school including teachers discrimiate against you for being gay then you should sue them, it may sound like im joking but im serious thats illegal to lower someones grade bc of belief/reliigon/race/ect you know what i mean...in the mean time, talk to hannah about gay people in general, tell her you think this guy at school is cute, then just come out!
2007-05-01 09:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on where you live, you may be able to get the news media involved to show the abuse that is happening. People like to do their dirty work when no one can see them, you know.
You can make it a theme paper write-up.
On the other hand, you'll be taking a risk of getting beat up yourself. (But that can go in the news media report, too.)
2007-05-01 14:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem is today's society thinks being "bi" is a fad/trend to follow. By the sounds of it you're too young to be dating anyways. But if it's causing you issues in your life then talk to a counselor and/or parent.
2007-05-01 09:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make something up to keep your friends happy. If you can, tell only Hannah.
2007-05-01 09:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋