He has almost been like a mentor to me. I am embarassed since he made me cry at
work in front of others. what should i do to get my dignity back. does he have that right to yell at me. i will never feel the same again since he treated me this way.
2007-05-01 01:40:57 · 5 answers · asked by ladygem 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Tell him how hurt you are if you are female
Grow some balls and tell him off if you are a man
2007-05-01 01:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by daedealis 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi does not have the right to yell at you or treat you in any other hostile way. Your company may have a policy against this type of workplace violence. If you do nothing, it may get worse.
Also, you need to understand why he did what he did. If your work performance needed correcting, he should have talked with you about it, not yelled and embarrassed you. There may be something going on in his personal life that cause him to react this way.
Your need to get someone else involved, such as a union steward or a co-worker you trust as a impartial party to help change things for the better. Both of you then need to talk with him together away from everyone else and work together to keep this from happening again.
Your goal should be to keep doing a good job at work, but to treated with dignity and respect....
2007-05-01 01:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by ib confused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have done or said something which was not right or resulted in some major problem. If this isn't the case, then possibly there was something that happened to the boss in his official dealings or personal life that has upset him, and he took out his stress on you.
If he is someone who has been your mentor and you have respect for him, as this is the first time this has happened, please try to empathize with him and try to contain the hurt he has caused by his outburst in public. It is no doubt difficult to do so, but this type of situation overwhelms most of us, sometime or the other.
Watch his behavior towards you for a couple of days, try to find out if he is under some extreme tension that gave rise to the bad experience. It is likely that he would control himself and possibly apologize for his behavior. As you have a good working relation with him, he probably would speak to you soon.
Please don't change your opinion about him based on one recent sorry incident, as your past experience for many years has been very good. I am sure things would improve shortly. If they don't, a deeper analysis of the reasons therefor would need to be done.
Good luck.
2007-05-01 01:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by greenhorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes that's really what a boss needs to do. A boss is there to keep things in line and punish people when they need punishing. Take this one bit of advise, Do not take it personal. If he yelled at you about something at work, then it's business and not personal. Schedule a sit down with him to talk about it and what you can do differently to deter that from happening in the future. If you think of him as a mentor, then maybe he expected something great out of you and didn't get that result and that upset him.
Just talk to him, I'm sure you can work things out.
2007-05-01 01:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Todd B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not personal. He might have been stressed or expected something more from you. Either way, just pretend that you didn't cry and continue to act professional around him. He'll respect you for getting back up and being able to take it.
2007-05-01 01:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ginger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋