Getting worried about labour???

Question

I am 32 weeks pregnant at the moment & although it has not bothered me previously I am now starting to get worried about labour. The reason I am so worried is because lately when my partner & I have sex it hurts & I feel really sore afterwards. It seems as if there is not enough lubrication & the friction when having sex causes it to hurt. I don't know why this is happening as this wasn't the case before. My partner says that I keep tensing up. Anyway my point is if it hurts that much when having sex, how am I going to push a baby out of there?? I am worried I'll tear or won't be able to push my baby out & have to have a c section which I am terrified of. Has anyone else experienced this pain when having sex at this stage of pregnancy? Any tips on how to stop it from hurting? And will I be ok in labour? Will I be able to push my baby out? This is my first baby.

Answer 1

Hello and Congrats... I am 31wks pregnant with my first baby also. I haven't had so much..."PAIN".... but I have noticed that I am extremely sensitive this month and it does hurt a little to have sex or if my partner touches me for to long I get really dry as well and it starts to hurt. I have also noticed what seems like swelling in my vagina its like every thing is a lot thicker some of friends have said other then the hormone factor there is so much more blood in our body now that it contributes to the discomfort. try using a lot of good oil for sex and fourplay. almond oil really is best. ask your partner to really try to work you up first and be very gentle, it may help. I am starting to get a little scared my self, my main concern it tearing or having to be cut. just the thought hurts! Rub oil in to your perineum every night religiously for the rest of your pregnancy so the area is really well moistened for birth and stretches easier my friends swore by it. good luck with every thing and best of wishes

Answer 2

Don't worry you will be fine in labor. Yes I think that a lot of women experience this discomfort later in pregnancy during sex. I would recommend buying lubricant or something. You can push your baby out, everything will be just fine. If you did have to have a c section don't worry you will be fine, if it comes down to that you will just be happy to get the baby out. Good Luck! :) Also don't listen to other people who tell you that you cannot have sex, that is for your doctor to decide! Talk it over with the Doc, for most women it is safe to have sex all the way up until delivery!

Answer 3

You shouldn't worry too much as this won't help u in the list.
You can try using lubricants or vaseline when having sex. You won't feel any pain this way.
the pain u feel during sex has nothing to do with labour.
Your vagina will definitely be moist when u're in labour. The water breaking, your dilation plus the blessing that your baby will be all moisty when coming out so the only pains u'll experience are the normal labour pains which can even be reduced with an injection on your request.
have safe delivery.

Answer 4

i experienced a decrease in libido and natural lubrication during early pregnancy, and got it back in the around week 30 but having less lube down there during intercourse is completely normal for pregnancy. consider going out and getting some lubrication to "grease" things along and make it more enjoyable for both of you, thats what we did. also, your body is meant to give birth to a baby and it will expand accordingly. its usually only if you have a huge baby and a tiny frame that you may have difficulty pushing them out due to size issues. i wouldnt worry too much but definetly consider picking up some personal lubrication from a ocal pharmacy and enjoy the last 8 weeks of having sex freely without the worry of getting pregnant lol. trust me, it will be much more enjoyable. p.s. the reason he's probably telling you you're tensing is cuz it hurts so your natural reaction is to tense. i did the same thing til i figured out it was cuz i needed some more lubrication

Answer 5

You have to remember that your hormones are all out of whack. I mean those hormones that turn you on may be turning you off not literally but making you not produce enough natural lubrication. You may be feeling really sore because of the lack of lubrication. But don't worry about not being able to push your child out because your body will react to whats happening. Don't worry about you tearing because if you have a good doctor he'll know what to do in the situation. But like I said your body is smarted than you even. trust me I know. I was worried about the same think when I had my son. But I had to have an emergency c section which was not bad. But its all worth it in the end. Just relax and let time bring your little one here. But just remember when it comes time to have your little one you probably wont remember anything that's said on here. Just remember that everything is going to be fine. Just put everything in His hands.

Answer 6

It sounds like your just a little dry, it happens. You probably keep tensing up because its uncomfortable, use a good water based lubricant, and lots of foreplay. Trust me, you will be fine in labour, i was in full labour for 6 hours with my first but it only felt like it was about an hour, its over quicker than you think, plus isnt it better not to worry and just get it over and done with, when it comes. Of course you will be able to get the baby out.

Answer 7

Doesn't sound as though the sex is enjoyable, so I'd say it's time to hold off for a while. Yes, there does definetly become a time, that it starts getting extremely uncomfortable, so don't stress about it just stop.
I did tear 3rd degree and it's painful, but there is nothing you can't do, and it doesn't necessarily mean you are going to have a C. My advice, don't worry about doing it naturally, you are still "plenty coherent" to remeber the birth of your child , and to do as the dr's guide you when you are on an epideral. TAKE THE DRUGS............unless of course your one of those crazy women who's got someting to prove by having your child naturally. anyway, congrats and good luck.

Answer 8

The same thing happened to me and my doctor said because the baby is putting pressure and it can hurt during sex. Your body will do its thing when it is time . I was in labor for 4 days but 18 hours of hard labor then i had a c-section. I was scared to death on the labor process so its prefectly normal but even the labor i had back and front labor the doctor said it was one of the worst cases but, it was not that bad. at least for me my body and mind told me you cant backout so deal with it and i did i think the worst part was not being able to eat when i was in labor lol Good luck!

Answer 9

If you are still in the mood for sex, get a lubricant to help the dryness. It could be your fears that are preventing enjoyment so try to relax!
Your body will expand to deliver that baby, and the fluids surrounding the baby help lubricate the birth canal.

Unless your doctor has expressed some concern about delivery, don't worry! Your body has an amazing ability to stretch and change to accomodate the baby's passage. Will it hurt? Yes Will it be unbearable? No I took Lamaze classes that taught different breathing methods to help me relax. I used the breathing methods for stress release, stomach aches and taught them to my kids to get through shots at the doctors office! It might be something for you to try now. Check your local hospital for classes.

Good luck to you and your baby to be. You will be fine!

Answer 10

Yes it hurt me to. I had an epidural so if you are planning to have one than you wont be able to feel anything and will not have a problem pushing the baby out. I had the same fears before i had my beautiful baby girl but things will be fine the baby will come and you will be able to do what you need to do to bring your beautiful ray of sunshine into the world. Just don;t stress out about it things will be wonderful.