I had a miscarriage four weeks ago and only now am I feeling a loss, Im crying alot. It does not help that my friend who is much younger than me has just had her second baby. Im very lucky as I do have a nine month old baby girl.
2007-05-01 00:20:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
ohhhh HONEY!!!! Yes it is absolutely ok to cry. You are the Mommy, you will feel better by letting it out. But think about it this way - everything happens for a reason. Hold on to your little girl tight. She will help you overcome it. I still remeber the day i lost my first one at almost 3 months. Its very hard. But you will get out of it quickly. Grieving is completely fine though. It would be hard for you especially because your friend had her second baby. But trust me very soon you would have another one too!!!
2007-05-01 03:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Cookie07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to cry. But don't get depressed over it. It will not be normal if you keep on crying for too long. Focus on your little girl! You are blessed with her, even if you had the miscarriage. Many women miscarry, it's just a part of the natural process. Don't consider it as "loss", basically it's the same as not having gotten pregnant if you come to think of it, the ova gets lost anyway! Until the baby is born or at least grown into a viable embryo, there is always this risk. So cry to get it out of your system, but get over it!
2007-05-01 00:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK To Cry. Losing A Baby Hurts! You Have The Right To Cry. Just Make Sure That You Show More Love To Your Daughter That You Do Have Right Now. This Way You Will Always Have Something To Smile About!
2007-05-01 00:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by chilli2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course its OK to cry. Its completely normal. I have a friend who wasn't in the best place to have a baby, didn't know she was pregnant until she miscarried and she was still devastated. I'm sorry for your loss. Just try to think that your body miscarried the baby for a reason, and God wouldn't give you more than you can handle. I know its little comfort but I like to think everything happens for a reason. You'll have another baby when the time is right. So just enjoy your daughter for now and be glad you have her. She'll get a brother or sister to play with soon enough. Good luck.
2007-05-01 00:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by Libby L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course it's ok to cry for your baby. I did both times I miscarried at 5 weeks. It's not only a very sad time, your hormones will be going crazy as well...which won't help at all. It is always harder when someone else breezes through their pregnancy, even if they are your close friend. I understand completely. I ended up getting so depressed, I had to go on Prozac (which DID help even though I really didn't think they would) and I also went to a counsellor, which helped a lot as well. I ended up getting pregnant again 2 weeks after my last miscarriage and had to stop the prozac and the therapy but it did help at the time. I sincerely hope you are ok.
2007-05-01 00:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by West Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YESSS!! It is TOTALLY OK to cry. No matter how old the baby was, it was still a baby and you will miss the baby! It is totally normal and OK.
Try doing something to bring about closure though. Closure does NOT mean that you will forget about the baby, or that the baby will not mean anything to you in the future, but it is a way you can say goodbye to the baby. If you can have some sort of funeral or service, that would really help. (Not saying you have to spend a lot of money and have a real service, maybe just you and your husband, sitting together and talking about the baby, and why you are sad, and how you will miss the baby). It will also help you if you name the baby - it makes it easier to say goodbye :)
Know that your feelings are completely normal!! I'm really sorry for your loss!
2007-05-01 00:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by pumped up! whoo hoo! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother, you already know how special a new baby is...of course it's ok to cry over the loss of a baby...it may take you a while to get over this...take it day by day....just remember, God has a reason for everything...just wasn't meant to be this time....God won't throw anything at you that you can't handle. Sorry for your loss.
2007-05-01 00:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Brandie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's okay to cry! You need to grieve for your loss. I'm sure you had hopes and fears and happiness pinned on the little one who never got to join you. An entire future envisaged was lost so it seems like you have lost all of that, right? Have a good cry if and when you need to but don't wallow in it. Sorry for your loss.
2007-05-01 00:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by sticky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was also very weepy after the loss of 2 children, one miscarriage, one live birth that died at 10 days old. It is OK to go to your doctor and ask for help. I was on Paxil CR and it helped me sooooo much. Just a suggestion!
2007-05-01 02:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it's ok to cry. That baby was apart of you for a long time and if you are able, you'll have another. But for now, crying is very healthy and you have to go through the grieving process to be able to move on. God bless you and I will pray for you.
2007-05-01 00:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by child_n_light 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋