i dont love my husband?

Question

i,ve been married for 12yrs and has never had a stable income from my husband. he is always relying on me to cove the bills. we have kids. do i stay in marriage for sake of kids

Answer 1

The worst thing you can do is stay with someone you no longer love for the sake of the kids. If you are unhappy, I would bet no one else is either. You can make it on your own. Better luck next time you fall in love.

Answer 2

You talk about love and money in the same sentence. They are not compatible. Are you just unhappy because you have to get off your a$$ and contribute to the family income, or are you unhappy because you think that your husband can do better than he is?? Maybe the problem is YOU and not your husband. Try to set goals for yourself, and take small steps to reach them....see if you can get your husband to do the same. Marriage is a partnership, in business, life, and raising children, sometimes partnerships need to be dissolved, but more often than not, they need communication, and hard work on both parts. Take responsibility for your OWN happiness and financial stability, then you won't be so worried about what your husband is doing with his life's work.
It is not up to your husband to MAKE you happy. It is up to you to make yourself happy. If you try these things, and are still unhappy, THEN divorce is a necessity, but, to simply toss a 12 year marriage out, because of a temporary situation, that you could easily make better....is what my ex wife did. Two years after our divorce, I have a hundred thousand dollars in my bank account, and she is still unhappy and barely making her bills.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Never stay in the marriage for the sake of the kids. You know how smart kids are, they know what's going on.

You have to ask yourself what type of a role model are YOU supplying to your children. If you're unhappy, and he's a bum, what do you think that says to them?

The big question is, do you want to be this miserable for ANOTHER 12 years?

Answer 4

Go to a marriage counsellor. 12 yrs is a long time with a lot of personal/emotional investment. This is such a life changing decison that cannot be decided by consulting strangers over the internet.

Answer 5

My daughter was going through this for three years. She finally woke up and is now happy again.
Why ruin your life for a bum, get out now and maybe your kids will be happier also. I can't believe they don't see something wrong with this picture. They will grow up with the wrong ideas. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Answer 6

No the kids deserve to be with two people living apart happily instead of two trapped in a hell. You said it all with asking if you love your husband. You dont and who would eventually one gets tired of paying the bills by yourself. Leave or ask him to and be happy.

Answer 7

You really don't have enough info here, but staying for the children isn't always the answer. If you are fair and liberal with the time they spend with their father it would work it self out. You've heard the old saying...."If Mommas not happy then Nobody's happy".

Answer 8

After keeping patience for several years why you wanna lose your reward from god these whole sacrifice will go in vain if leave now to hubby .don,t its almost 12 yrs ,try to settle the things your life over think of the kids you are the mother,your single decision may affect their whole life think for the kids my humble request,and rest of keep in the hands of god he will do it good for you here and after ,i knew you will be the great mother

Answer 9

you could actually be making the kids more miserable if you stay in the marriage. if you are unhappy then you should leave. if you and your husband can't work anything out then there is no point in staying.

Answer 10

12 years, it's a quite long time. I hope he is at least a good father for your kids otherwise I strongly recommend you to get rid of him. Save your and your kid's life!