I left my ex-bf bcos there is a huge age difference between us. When we were together, we had amazing sex, we loved each other deeply which made the sex life very good... Then I met someone else and got married, we 2 didnt have sex b4 the wedding, after getting married, I find Im not interested in having sex with him, I cant find the passion anymore, I still missed my exbf very much. But my husband has tried his best, he is very satisfied and enjoys the sex, but I dont, I feel painful...I always miss the long and passionate love making with my exbf, and cant get over it... What should I do now? How can I forget the past?
2007-04-30 22:33:53 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try to forget the past and look to enjoy the day! (or night). What happened is over and out!
2007-04-30 22:40:09 · answer #1 · answered by chr_met 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You cant forget the past, it will always be there in the back of your mind. Just remember the reasons why you married him. Is he fun to be around? Does he treat me good? whats the most romantic thing hes done recently? Whens the last time he has tried to just satisfy me, and didnt think of himself? It took me 3 years to get comfortable with my bf, you know, during sex. I never wanted to try anything knew. then it just started happening, the new positions and the feelings. I love sex with him now. I cant go a day without it!
If you can remember all those good times together and remember the reason why you married him in the first place, the great sex will come, I promise. Its just taking its jolly time getting here, thats all!
2007-04-30 22:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be upfront and honest! Really! Let him know what your day consists of and why you're tired. If he can't understand that, that's wrong on his part. A decrease in sex and intimate moments could become a problem, really fast if you all don't nip this in the bud. You should consider reworking your schedule with your kids to make more relax time for yourself so you're not as tired. Not just to be free up energy for sex either! Just 'you time', and maybe putting the kids to bed early or designating a fun day for 'intimacy'. The possibilities could be endless. You all should sit down and talk about it either way.
2016-04-01 03:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about sex! It's about the relationship with the guy your having sex with. Use a little common sense.
Do you love your husband? You finding that out now, because you probably got married immediately after you left your ex and now the truth is coming out. The truth about how you really feel about him.
When you are incredibly happy and naturally doing anything to make eachother happy and you realize you could never be without that person, that's when you fell in Love.
Marriage is the commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. Are you learning that now?
You had to leave your ex, because of his age? It seems like he was probably in his 30's and your in your teens, because your very immature.
If you want to make your marriage work, you could only if you love that man. Great sex will happen after the fact.
2007-04-30 23:24:33 · answer #4 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe some of these answers but ? everyone to their own ideas I guess.
I cannot see why you got married in the first place, there must have been a reason, you just don't start sleeping with someone and wish it were someone else. You've got a long way to go baby.
I would suggest a marriage consular and see what they have to tell you. I would also suggest growing up, your only adding to the divorce ration in this Country without trying.
2007-04-30 22:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard situation. You need to look yourself long and hard inthe mirror and decide
1) do you love your husband?
2) do you want to stay with him
if the answer to both is yes then you need to work through your sex issues with him. A relationship cannot last without sex. I know I have been there too.
If you are staying with your husband for fear of being alone then you are not being fair on him or yourself.
If you do not love him you need to leave him.
If you are still in love with your ex you are only hurting everyone involved. If you decide to move forwards with your husband you need to leave the ex in the past.
2007-04-30 22:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by Salsa 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Painful sex is never fun and I wouldn't want to have sex if it were painful either. Tell your husband that it causes you pain and he needs to slow down.
Why would you marry a man if you were still in love with your ex? That wasn't very smart.
2007-04-30 23:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason I have a problem believing it was "love making". Anyway, I hate to burst your bubble, but life is made up of things WAY more important than "amazing sex". You need to get yourself together before your husband gets rid of your ***.
2007-04-30 23:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy than leave him ,dont have ext-marital affair leave him than have other guy.having ext-marital affair loose moral act,
sex is not everything in life see the other point of view of life if he is good in other aspect of life than why ,sex is not longlasting its matter of time .if he is good guy try to handle situation and discuss with him sit together an d talk with what you like what you don't you can settle the things marriage is not for breaking its for understanding 2 individual so do it positively no negative attitude its matter love
2007-04-30 23:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ar.ARFATH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still in love with your ex boyfriend and untill you get over him you will always feel in pain. If you are so unhappy maybe you should go back to your boyfriend as being in the relationship you are now is only causing you pain.
2007-04-30 22:41:40 · answer #10 · answered by ann jo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you need to talk to your husband about your sex life and why it isnt up to what it should be. Explain to him how you feel. Try to spice things up in the bedroom. Give things a chance. If you still arent feeling any better, then I think it may be a good time to take a break.
2007-04-30 22:38:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋