I'm 21 soon to be 22. Married for just under a year now and living overseas with my husband (army). My family as a whole has always been fairly astranged and distant. My father (63) and mother(58) have been married for 25 years (26 in july). Both have children from previous marriages. I am their only child and 8 years the youngest. For reasons I won't disclose my parents are separating. My mother has moved down to florida with the idea of divorce around the fall of this year. My father is staying in MA but footing the bill for her and giving her an allowance. I don't know all the legal details but that's besides the point. Since I can remember I have wanted them to separate. When I first heard I said I'd support them in any decision and loved them both. But to tell the truth I want to scream. I want to tell them I WANT them to divorce (I have my reasons). I'm only holding back because i'm not in their immediate life anymore... but I'm still their child, does my opinion still count?
2007-04-30 22:30:50 · 12 answers · asked by cav71006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave well enough alone.
2007-04-30 22:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe honesty is always the best! I have hidden things from the ones I love for many years, it always comes out and time does not make it easier.
You have your reason so take it up with the person involved. If you have something to say to either parent give them a call and preemt the conversation by letting them know you love them however this is something that is effecting you and you just need them to know how you are feeling.
This will give them all the info they can have, they will make their decisions anyway, but given they are your parents they will love you dearly and will want to know your thoughts.
If you tell them and they don't listen at least you know in your heart that you have done what you can and you cannot lose sleep over that
Good luck!
The divorce effects everyone involved whether you live at home with them or are married and live OS.
You cannot make them do anything nor should you try. If one has done something that you don't you don't like dont tell the other that only causes pain, but do take it up with the one youa re angry with and let them know how you feel
2007-04-30 22:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Salsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think your opinion counts a great deal. Just because you're not around them all the time doesn't mean what you think doesn't matter. However i don't know the whole situation so i'm not entirely sure IF you should tell them, but from what you've said i would say go for it, especially if it's bothering you a lot! sorry i'm not much help but i do think your opinion really does count, and it sounds like it would count a lot to your parents.
2007-04-30 22:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by missmcr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your opinion is just that and you have a right to tell them. Wether they consider it or not is up to them. But keep in mind, would you like them to give their opinions about your marriage and private life?
Let me be clear on one thing, a marriage is between a husband and a wife....not the children, the children aren't part of the marriage. I am stating this so that you understand you don't have some right as their child to butt into their maritial problem. Once you give your opinion then you need to let it be.
2007-05-01 00:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U tell him how u feel and be like I don't like how ur treating me and it's sad cuz I really really liked u Then b like I was going to dump my bf for u but now ur acting like a jerk so I don't think im getting rid of him
2016-05-17 22:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by elissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think their old enough to make their own decisions for their own happiness Honey. Step out of the picture and let them carry on with their own lives.
Your going to get intertwined in their affairs and your are going to be bruised by it. Watch but, don't touch, you'll be happier in the long run.
2007-04-30 23:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey--you are married and have your own family life to worry about---stop getting involved with theirs--it's none of your business. Concentrate on what you are doing with your own life. Saying something won't mean or change a thing
2007-04-30 22:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. They're going through enough heart ache already and then to deal with your feelings too. Leave it be. In time, after all is said and done, you can let them know how you feel.
2007-04-30 22:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless they ask for your opinion, I think you should just leave it well enough alone. Your opinion still counts but only if they asked for it.
2007-04-30 22:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay neutral and say nothing. The very thing that you want is happening between them.
2007-04-30 22:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋