how do you let someone know (gently) you don't like them?

Question

well, there's these two girls at school and i just flat-out don't like them. they like to follow me around alot and try to keep me all to themselves. now before you go on and think im conceited for saying that (and if you didn't, thanks), they literally push my other friends out of their way to talk to me and for me to focus on them. and they constantly try to say they're into the exact same things i am, but for example, when they say they love my favorite band, i asked them, "what's your favorite song?" they just stay quiet and pretend they didn't hear what i asked. i am not the type of person to say, "hey, i don't like you, get away from me." i hate making people feel bad.

so, what do i do in a situation like this? i don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but hey, i don't want these two girls following me everywhere, either!

Answer 1

make them feel unconformable in your company Ask allot of rude things and say stupid things so they wont like you

Answer 2

Unfortunately, there are times in this life when you have to take drastic steps and that includes putting nervey, rude knot-heads in their place. You haven't said a thing...so why should they act different? Next time...just say to them "excuse me, I'm talking with my friends here. Maybe another time." If that doesn't do it...come right out and tell them..."we have nothing in common and you are rude, not to mention that you make me uncomfortable". That should do it. How about "can you two back off please?"......then move on. Forget about hurting their feelings...they dont have any!

Answer 3

When someone that you dislike thinks that he or she is your friend, it could be a problem. He or she might keep calling you, or trying to be with you, when you really don't want to be friends. It's not easy to tell them that you don't want to be friends with them, especially if you're generally a nice person, but sometimes it just has to be done.

Well here's what I suggest that you should do..

----Arrange to meet in private. It is always easier, and less embarrassing if you both are alone when you tell them you don't want to be friends with them.
----Think about what to say say beforehand. Remember, they have feelings too, so try to let them down lightly. No need to be too blunt, but make sure your message is understood.
----Don't lie. Be honest when you mention the reasons behind your actions.
----Make sure you do not discuss this with others. Explain as kindly as you can to them, that you feel that you just have nothing in common to establish a friendship.
----Another way to let them down gently is to "phase them out". After a long period of time without seeing them, pay less and less attention with the passing days. If you have to see them regularly, change from saying hi to just nodding to acknowledge their presence. After some time doing that, stop acknowledging full stop.

or maybe

Make a list of all the reasons you think you and this friend should not be friends anymore. Some common reasons are:


no more shared interests
a violation of trust
one friend gets into very bad habits that you don't agree with

--Decide to what extent you want to 'break up.' Do you want to bump it down from 'best friends' to 'close friends' or even to 'acquaintances?' Do you want to stop hanging out, or even talking, altogether?
---Start spending less time with your friend, whether it's by cutting your conversations a little shorter, or by making yourself less available to hang out.
---Don't initiate phone calls; if the person calls you be polite and keep it brief. Don't agree to plans or make promises.
If this person doesn't get the hint, talk to him/her about how you feel. It's likely that he/she won't take it well, but sometimes, the other person knows that things aren't working out and isn't all that surprised.
---The other person may get angry at you for suddenly being so cold or even confront you. Don't lose your cool. Play it down by saying something like "I've just been really busy lately, I'm sorry." and then explain that you may have less time for them. If you're breaking things off due to their apparent attitude problem try something to the effect of "Well I really loved those times when we _____, but I sometimes feel a little suffocated, it's not really your fault, but it is our problem. How about we try spending a little less time together for now and see where we're at in 6 months?"
---If they get angry about that or try to bad-mouth you, simply cut the lines of communication. If your most sincere efforts to guard their feelings are rewarded with hostility then they are only validating your request to break things off.

Answer 4

Just say: "Look girls, This here is my 'personal space' and I'll need up to about ten feet of that personal space. I'll respect your personal space. Now, I would hope that you could respect my personal space. Okay?..."
-There, they should get the message. Good luck!

Answer 5

Bascialy u can either find some other girl so they will leave u alone or u can just suger coat the way u feel but let them no how u feel.

Answer 6

Get Outta My Face

Answer 7

Find out the things or people that they genuinely dont like (without them knowing) and show your interest on it/them.. I think they would move away if you assure them that you're not their type or you're not the one they would like to be with.

Answer 8

while at lunch just tell them you will be hanging somewhere else today and tell them to have a good day. and after a few days of hearing that they will more than likely fade.

Answer 9

TAKE THEM ASIDE , BUT IN PUBLIC AND QUIETLY BUT FIRMLY LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. ALSO, TELL THEM IF THIS DOES NOT STOP, YOU WILL GO TO A HIGHER AUTHORITY. DO MAKE SURE YOU TELL SOMEONE ALL THIS, AS A PRECAUTION. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 10

aww...Just tell them about a new girl you meet. And they will start to lose feeling for you trust me its gonna hurt them..