My sister is going lesbian. What do I do?

Question

Well my older sister didn't do well in school so she is a poor person. She is currently living with me at this point. We have a lot of fun together until the other night the told me she was a lesbian. It scared me and know I don't know if I should kick her out of just let her live with me. What should I do?

Answer 1

She's your sister.

No matter what sexual orientation she is, you should love her because she's family. Give her love, support, and encouragement. Let her know that in the face of the world, you'll be there for her.

Answer 2

Well, I don't have a religious standpoint on this, so if you do, there's really nothing I can do to help your situation. But in my opinion, the fact that she's a lesbian doesn't change who she is. She likes girls; how does that change her personality? Is she not going to be as outgoing or as thoughtful and conscientious because she happens to be interested in people of the same gender? She's not going to brainwash you into lesbianism. This isn't Nazi Germany with Auschwitz and the Third Reich. And just to be honest, if you think your sister is some sort of bad pesron because she doesn't follow your concept of a "natural" lifestyle, then I really don't know what kind of a person you are. We each believe different things. People within an organized branch of a religion also believe in different things. We're all different, and nobody truly knows the right answer, which is why we can't judge others for the choices they made. We believe we're right; that's a beautiful thing, because believing is stronger than knowing, since it's in our hearts. But we need to respect that other people believe a different way. They're not you, so respect that reality. Your sister is still your sister.

Heath

Answer 3

It's 2007!! What a relief it must have been for her to come out of the closet!! You should still love her as much as you always have, and you should support her 100%. Let her live with you, until she's ready to move out for whatever reason. She should get a job (waitressing is really good money.) She should be helping with the rent, groceries, etc. If she's just a couch potato, then you should warn her that she needs to get a job. Her sexual preference has nothing to do with anything.

Answer 4

Ask her if that's what she really wants or is she letting hype from other people spur her on. She may just be feeling temporarily bored with guys. Oddly enough it happens to guys from time to time. A person can get tired of relationships but its no reason to change sexual preferences. If you can't get her to realize that she may just be tired of relationships for a while than i think it's best to accept her decision like her sister and not be judgemental. Praying is a good way to go too. God gave free will for a reason and he saw all the repercussions before hand.

Answer 5

Why on Earth would u consider kicking her out? R u insane? She may be yer sister, but u have no business with her sex life. If the problem is running into her and her girlfriend in yer place, just talk to her and give her yer house rules. Dont be rude, be respectful, always remembering u have NOTHING to do with her sex life. What is so scaring bout her being into the same sex?? Its not like shes a psycho or something like dat. she being yer sis, should be more than that for u. Grow up to life and support yer sis, bet ud like her to do the same to u.

Answer 6

Hey there!She is your sister for god's sake and you even have thoughts to chase her out?What kind of a sister are you?.As you know,families are important.You cannot be self-centered and always think about yourself.Have you ever thought of the consequences that your sister will face once you chased her out?You're her family so make her feel at home and not an outsider.Make her feel that it is ok to be a lesbian and be accepted.That's all i have to say.

Answer 7

Why would you kick your own sister out? Family is still family. It's not like she's asking you to go be lesbian with her, right? Let her figure out who she is but don't make matters worse by going your family wrong. Just stick this phase out.

Answer 8

for one thing, you are a being selfish if you are making this about you. She obviously needs some support and as her sister you should be there. Even if you don't agree with her choice in lifestyles, she is your sister. encourage her to start looking for places on her own, build her up, dont' tear her down. Dont' you think that this is hard enough for her to come to terms with only to have you demoralize her? I don't want to come across too strong but seriously, you need to show compassion, not an absolute. siblings dont' have to like how each other live, but family is family. you only have one.

Answer 9

Realize that if she is a lesbian, she more than likely isn't into you. Incest usually doesn't flow from that. If your uncomfortable with her sexual orientation, then talk to her about it. If you're still uncomfortable with it after talking then help her transition out of the house. But keep your sister your sister. Don't get stupid and walk away from your blood.

Answer 10

lol.... what kind of question is that...what do u mean" what should I do" heres THE ANswer" NOTHING- there is nothing you can or should do besides support her life style...why would u kick her out? Nevermind i changed my mind...if u think you need to kick her out then u need to recognize that u are being a bad sisiter and should seek counseling to help u better understant the meaning of family and understand why you might be homophobic

Answer 11

She is your sister! You should love her and support her choice. It is not up to you or anyone else to decide what her sexual preference should be. You can not know what she is feeling inside. I am not gay, but I do have gay friends. They tell me that it is not a choice. They all say that they felt that way since they were young.Try to be understanding. How would you want your sister to treat you, if you were in her position?