This is ridiculous but need some advise.?

Question

My son loves to dance (2 years old). His father is absolutely forbiding me to let him join baby boggy dance class. He is afraid that will make him gay. He says it is just his believe and I have to listen to what he is saying because he is the father. Now we all know this is just ridiculous. I feel my son is going to be who he is and as long as he is happy, who cares and he may be the daddy but he isn't laying down the law and thinking because he said NO that is law. My question is how would you feel about your son dancing (if he danced all the time) and how would you end this battle.

To answer Rob's question. Didn't marry him. Kicked him to the curb when he wasn't paying attention to his son. Now he just has some control issues I have to deal with because he is my baby's daddy.

Answer 1

Dancing will not make your son gay. It is an outlet for creativity, a great way for a kid to get exercise, will be good for his math skills when he is older and many many other positive attributes. If he learns at such a young age to enjoy exercise his whole life will be a more active one. Too many of our kids are overweight lumps sitting in front of the computer or television or x-boxes. Take your husband to a counselor before he ruins your precious little boy.

PS Mikhail Baryshnikov is a fine example of a male dancer, ballet no less, that is most certainly not gay.

Answer 2

Simply ask your husband to help you both solve the problem by asking your family doctor or your most trusted friend to answer this question:

Would dancing classes make a boy gay?

You and I know the answer which of course is that "only chromosones make or cause a person to be gay and these are an integral part of a person's "gender". Notice that I did not say part of his "sex".

Your husband is not alone, nor should in any way be criticized for confusing ""sex" and "gender". Sex is merely whether you are a male or female. Gender or sexual persuasion is something entirely different. Out of thousands of gay interview the vast majority have saiud " Since I was beginning puberty I knew that I was oriented toward being gay. I was not attracted sexually toward the OPPOSITE sex but to my own.

Your little boy will NOT be influenced in any way to be gay except the WAY his hormones and chromosones have dictated. I'm sure your husband will listen to a profesional opinion so LET HIM choose whom to consult then he will be satisfied.

Answer 3

Whatever your son loves to do, encourage that.
According to my own experience, fathers are usually clueless or just plain morons, as far as education goes.
Do you know about Mikhail Baryshnikov, the most beautiful dancer of our time? A straight dancer, always in the tabloids, because he had so many mistresses (he’s THE guy in Sex and the City).

Also your son could be gay, so what? I like gay guys, they know how to cook, how to dress, how to decorate their place and they love their mothers…

Anyway, whatever the father says is completely irrelevant at this point. He can say this or that, his opinion will NOT change anything so he might as well shut up.

Go with the flow, you cannot stop it, neither can the father…

Answer 4

Let your son do what he will. Sounds like your sons father has some insecurity issues. For this I will say I do however know alot of gay people both women and men there is nothing about an activity in which chooses a lifestyle later in life. I know men that were quarterbacks in highschooll that are gay i know men that were cheerleaders that are straight. So to each his own, To actually be attracted to the oppsite sex is now being founded to be a part of the brain. In which recognizes attraction for the same sex. Dont worry about your baby keep giving him your morals, values and education and he will determine who and what he is!

Answer 5

My opinion is that if the father does not want his son in dance class that is understandable. Your son can always enjoy dancing at home. The problem is that he would probably be the only boy and at that young of an age he might become more like a girl. So I am with the father I think it's in the best intrest of your son.

Answer 6

it's natural for a child to dance when they hear music just as it is natural for an adult to want to move when they hear music. I'm not saying the father is wrong, but he is your son too. And I highly doubt that dancing is going to make your son gay. Being gay is a choice that someone makes, it is not pushed upon them by joining a baby boogy class (which sounds so cute btw). It would be good for your child to interact with other children his age, and perhaps once the father sees other boys in the class, he will change his mind. Good luck to you!

Answer 7

this is how you get your husband to aquiese
first stroke a little ego (why not humor these doofy beliefs he has about being gay)
Tell him how no son of so viral and vital a man as himself would ever need to worry about his son becoming gay because even if they locked your son up with barbies and played oprah and tellie tubbies he is his fathers son

then point out that far from becoming gay dance classes will be predominatly filled with little girls which will result in your son becoming quite popular with the ladies and make him more comfortable around them later in life when he begins to date
so in fact dance lessons no matter how goofy they sound(and baby boogie dance classes sounds pathetically goofy)will increase both social and aid also athletic dexterity and balance it is an essential to any well groomed young man
i say its a must bravo mom

and yes you must listen to your husband because theoretically you didn;t marry a man you don;t support on issues of impact or import
that does not mean you cannot use your womanly wiles and intellect to persuade your big lug to go your way
learn to be a bit more sensitive to what its like to be the head of the house hold he may get the final word but in kind all mistakes are his fault
don't let him swing alone get in the habit of picking his most favorite relaxing mood and just give him your info without being adversarial just say you know honey I thought about how important it is not to make poor jr into a sissy and i realized that if he doesn't go to dance class he may never learn how to meet women and he might be nervous around women because he only has his mom
thats a good reason to make sure he knows more women than his mom
and i know YOUR son will never be gay
your genes are just too viral
and i would like you to consider letting me find a class where he can dance and interact with other kids
namely girls
he might turn out to be the most popular boy around

Answer 8

I would let my son do dancing if he likes it. Dancing won't make a person gay. Take him to dance class if you really want him to. You had the baby, you went through the pain you get the last word!

Answer 9

Ask him if he thinks he has gotten laid more often than Mikhail Baryshnikov. Not all male dancers are gay, and nothing like smooth dance moves to get a guy in good with the ladies.

Remind your baby's Daddy of that. And remind him that since he didn't pay enough attention to his kid to remain in the house with him, he should keep his nose out of your parenting decisions.

Answer 10

hey, you're the mother and you share equal rights on how to raise your kid. whether you enroll him there or not, you cannot control it if your son is will actually become later on. i know of some men who were raised by military fathers, you know strict rules and laws to abide, yet the sons eventually became gay.